by Ariel S. Compton ‧ RELEASE DATE: Oct. 25, 2012
An instructive how-to book and a welcome prescription for troubled couples.
A simple, practical debut guidebook to relationship therapy—without the therapist.
Married or dating, gay or straight, long-term or brand-new couples all confront conflicts that test their staying power. Longtime therapist Compton spends little time on theory and keeps her text free of jargon. Instead, she writes for readers who believe they would benefit from therapy but can’t find the time or means for sit-down sessions. Each of the book’s 15 chapters introduces one of several different potential relationship hangups, and then outlines a workshop approach to dealing with each one. The big four—communication, sex, money and family—all get due attention, each with subthemes attached. Readers can dive into single topics such as “Couples and Compromise,” “Couples, Sex, and Sensation,” or focused segments on living with a “problem child,” in-laws or stepchildren. The book is sprinkled with words to live by: “Love can survive even a catastrophic loss of money. What it sometimes can’t survive are everyday hassles over money,” or “[S]hift from seeing your partner as the problem to seeing your sexual interaction as the problem.” That last phrase epitomizes Compton’s healthy approach to dealing with conflict: shift the focus from one’s partner to the issue at hand. The author, a Stanford University–trained clinician, brings a hard, professional eye to conflict management, but the book shies away from thornier issues like religion or familial abuse; some challenges are best left to in-person therapy. Occasional phrases may turn off some readers, as when she assures couples who choose not to have children that “[t]here are already too many people in this world!” But her confident, lucid writing and practical suggestions will win most readers over.
An instructive how-to book and a welcome prescription for troubled couples.Pub Date: Oct. 25, 2012
ISBN: 978-1470056995
Page Count: 202
Publisher: CreateSpace
Review Posted Online: Jan. 9, 2013
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
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by Daniel Kahneman ‧ RELEASE DATE: Nov. 1, 2011
Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our...
A psychologist and Nobel Prize winner summarizes and synthesizes the recent decades of research on intuition and systematic thinking.
The author of several scholarly texts, Kahneman (Emeritus Psychology and Public Affairs/Princeton Univ.) now offers general readers not just the findings of psychological research but also a better understanding of how research questions arise and how scholars systematically frame and answer them. He begins with the distinction between System 1 and System 2 mental operations, the former referring to quick, automatic thought, the latter to more effortful, overt thinking. We rely heavily, writes, on System 1, resorting to the higher-energy System 2 only when we need or want to. Kahneman continually refers to System 2 as “lazy”: We don’t want to think rigorously about something. The author then explores the nuances of our two-system minds, showing how they perform in various situations. Psychological experiments have repeatedly revealed that our intuitions are generally wrong, that our assessments are based on biases and that our System 1 hates doubt and despises ambiguity. Kahneman largely avoids jargon; when he does use some (“heuristics,” for example), he argues that such terms really ought to join our everyday vocabulary. He reviews many fundamental concepts in psychology and statistics (regression to the mean, the narrative fallacy, the optimistic bias), showing how they relate to his overall concerns about how we think and why we make the decisions that we do. Some of the later chapters (dealing with risk-taking and statistics and probabilities) are denser than others (some readers may resent such demands on System 2!), but the passages that deal with the economic and political implications of the research are gripping.
Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our minds.Pub Date: Nov. 1, 2011
ISBN: 978-0-374-27563-1
Page Count: 512
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Review Posted Online: Sept. 3, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2011
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by Erin Meyer ‧ RELEASE DATE: May 27, 2014
These are not hard and fast rules, but Meyer delivers important reading for those engaged in international business.
A helpful guide to working effectively with people from other cultures.
“The sad truth is that the vast majority of managers who conduct business internationally have little understanding about how culture is impacting their work,” writes Meyer, a professor at INSEAD, an international business school. Yet they face a wider array of work styles than ever before in dealing with clients, suppliers and colleagues from around the world. When is it best to speak or stay quiet? What is the role of the leader in the room? When working with foreign business people, failing to take cultural differences into account can lead to frustration, misunderstanding or worse. Based on research and her experiences teaching cross-cultural behaviors to executive students, the author examines a handful of key areas. Among others, they include communicating (Anglo-Saxons are explicit; Asians communicate implicitly, requiring listeners to read between the lines), developing a sense of trust (Brazilians do it over long lunches), and decision-making (Germans rely on consensus, Americans on one decider). In each area, the author provides a “culture map scale” that positions behaviors in more than 20 countries along a continuum, allowing readers to anticipate the preferences of individuals from a particular country: Do they like direct or indirect negative feedback? Are they rigid or flexible regarding deadlines? Do they favor verbal or written commitments? And so on. Meyer discusses managers who have faced perplexing situations, such as knowledgeable team members who fail to speak up in meetings or Indians who offer a puzzling half-shake, half-nod of the head. Cultural differences—not personality quirks—are the motivating factors behind many behavioral styles. Depending on our cultures, we understand the world in a particular way, find certain arguments persuasive or lacking merit, and consider some ways of making decisions or measuring time natural and others quite strange.
These are not hard and fast rules, but Meyer delivers important reading for those engaged in international business.Pub Date: May 27, 2014
ISBN: 978-1-61039-250-1
Page Count: 288
Publisher: PublicAffairs
Review Posted Online: April 15, 2014
Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 1, 2014
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