A practical blueprint for fixing marriages.
A licensed clinical social worker and marriage counselor offers a helpful guide on “attachment-based” couples’ therapy and how to find the right therapist.
In this no-nonsense marriage repair manual, debut author Miller draws on his own marriage and years of counseling others. According to Miller, “Choosing the wrong kind of therapy…is the fastest way to send your relationship into a downward spiral.” However, Miller offers good news: if you choose the right therapist and the best therapy for your needs, “you and your partner stand a good chance of benefitting tremendously.” The author examines the experiences of real couples during counseling via various therapeutic approaches. For example, he discusses Jack and Irene’s frustration during their initial round of counseling. The couple chose a therapist practicing cognitive behavioral therapy, which minimizes the role of feelings in a relationship. But after hitting a wall, Jack and Irene came to Miller and found success with his attachment-based therapy. According to Miller, CBT often fails because it tries to fix aspects of a couple’s relationship without “understanding the root cause of their problems.” Trying to ignore feelings or fake an attachment are poor coping techniques because, he writes, “New science about the brain says that whether we recognize it consciously or not, feelings are always involved in our behavior.” In Chapter 3, Miller lays out the fundamentals of attachment-based couples’ therapy and devotes a chapter each to the three principal methodologies: Imago, Gottman Method, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. The book’s final section addresses practical issues, including the cost of therapy, how to find the right therapist, and the value of premarital counseling, sex therapy, and relationship coaching. Interested readers will find that Miller’s easy-to-read guide is well-organized and practical. Couples looking to hit the ground running will appreciate that his advice is mostly devoid of counseling jargon. He makes it easy to understand the various therapeutic techniques by allowing readers to listen in on dialogue between counselor and couple sprinkled with hopeful notes of encouragement.
A practical blueprint for fixing marriages.Pub Date: Feb. 2, 2015
ISBN: 978-0-9909169-3-2
Page Count: 304
Publisher: Love Good Press
Review Posted Online: May 24, 2015
Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 2015
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
This is not the Nutcracker sweet, as passed on by Tchaikovsky and Marius Petipa. No, this is the original Hoffmann tale of 1816, in which the froth of Christmas revelry occasionally parts to let the dark underside of childhood fantasies and fears peek through. The boundaries between dream and reality fade, just as Godfather Drosselmeier, the Nutcracker's creator, is seen as alternately sinister and jolly. And Italian artist Roberto Innocenti gives an errily realistic air to Marie's dreams, in richly detailed illustrations touched by a mysterious light. A beautiful version of this classic tale, which will captivate adults and children alike. (Nutcracker; $35.00; Oct. 28, 1996; 136 pp.; 0-15-100227-4)
Pub Date: Oct. 28, 1996
ISBN: 0-15-100227-4
Page Count: 136
Publisher: Harcourt
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 1996
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An extravaganza in Bemelmans' inimitable vein, but written almost dead pan, with sly, amusing, sometimes biting undertones, breaking through. For Bemelmans was "the man who came to cocktails". And his hostess was Lady Mendl (Elsie de Wolfe), arbiter of American decorating taste over a generation. Lady Mendl was an incredible person,- self-made in proper American tradition on the one hand, for she had been haunted by the poverty of her childhood, and the years of struggle up from its ugliness,- until she became synonymous with the exotic, exquisite, worshipper at beauty's whrine. Bemelmans draws a portrait in extremes, through apt descriptions, through hilarious anecdote, through surprisingly sympathetic and understanding bits of appreciation. The scene shifts from Hollywood to the home she loved the best in Versailles. One meets in passing a vast roster of famous figures of the international and artistic set. And always one feels Bemelmans, slightly offstage, observing, recording, commenting, illustrated.
Pub Date: Feb. 23, 1955
ISBN: 0670717797
Page Count: -
Publisher: Viking
Review Posted Online: Oct. 25, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Feb. 1, 1955
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