Believing that most marriages consist of ""gray-fifth-best mediocrity"" unless it's the one out of four that ends in divorce -- the authors do their best to jostle you out of your neat and tidy (by implication dull and dishonest) partnership considering that life should be like a book -- ""blood, sweat, semen and tears on well-thumbed pages."" For the most part this good (?) possibly deleterious (they admit it) book consists of exercises to promote intimacy: write down your peak experiences; your obituary; your ideas of the paradigm hero/heroine; describe your own body beautiful (with those wrinkles and wattles you like to conceal); provoke conflicts and disagreements; promote communication; RELATE. There is commentary on what contributes staying powers to a relationship (sex they contend is overemphasized; children and background enhance) and on second marriages, homosexual attachments, etc., as well as the interpersonal games you can play. The authors are catholic in their referrals, whether it's Rollo May or Erich Segal. In any case a with-it-in-touch approach for the evening not devoted to the tube but sharing your very own fantasies.