Dr. Broadbent gets a lot of mileage out of ""getting in touch"" with yourself, that current catch-phrase of psychotherapy. The message here is that ""genuineness""--authentic, nonmanipulative behavior--is the route to True Love. Stop trying so hard to win acceptance and approval, and love will come to you like the flowers in May. Easier said than done? Broadbent, director of a medical clinic and training center in Long Beach, California, offers a few simple ""techniques"" (gimmicks?) like ""checking in"" and ""checking out."" It may sound like what you do at the supermarket, but actually it's just friendly nonjudgmental self-monitoring, a way to shed those ""false styles"" that get in the way of ""owning"" yourself. Do you come on as The Saint, The Martyr, The Frightened Fawn In the Forest, The Man's Man? You'll do better just being yourself--advice that may confuse those with a Silly-Putty ego. Only the lingo is novel; the idea is the common currency of the self-help, instant-fulfillment books presently proliferating like warts.