The slightly offside counsels of an expatriate American ""agony aunt"" (or British ""Dear Abbie"") and unwed mother. Kurtz's...

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BEDS OF NAILS AND ROSES: Witty Observations on Enjoying Life as a Modern Woman

The slightly offside counsels of an expatriate American ""agony aunt"" (or British ""Dear Abbie"") and unwed mother. Kurtz's situation is actually more unusual than what she has to say: part homilies about the new ""proliferation of choice"" for women, the responsibilities entailed and the courage called for; part snappy/cozy advice on the standard topics of sex, love, relationships, and marriage. Problematically, Kurtz addresses a number of audiences--from should-I-or-shouldn't-I teens on up. Appealingly, her views don't follow a set pattern. She'd have girls choose to remain virgins until 18 or so--until they're in love (or something like it), unafraid, and undeluded. With admitted bias, she'd have every woman consider motherhood--and all women look warily at marriage Regarding sex, she pooh-poohs the fixation on orgasm (""to make him feel adequate""?) and makes a pitch for honesty, unhurriedness, and humor. More controversially--though without opprobrium: ""I think most of the women who write me about homosexual fears are simply opting out of a more difficult choice: coming to terms with heterosexuality."" Mostly the observations are of the sane, like-yourself sort--skeptical of new noses, ""schematized self-discovery,"" and perfection of any sort. Nice enough in its negligible way.

Pub Date: Nov. 1, 1983

ISBN: N/A

Page Count: -

Publisher: Dodd, Mead

Review Posted Online: N/A

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Nov. 1, 1983