In theory a good idea: a single volume that distills and updates information scattered throughout numerous books that deal with ways in which adult children can help cope with problems. But what a disappointment. Instead of intergenerational forward planning, we find ourselves mired in ""Mood Meters"" to help us evaluate our tangled emotions. Instead of the latest medical findings and updated financial and housing strategies, we are advised to make ""Commonsense Checklists."" We are subjected to entire chapters that tell us that older people are capable of sexual relations, that they require good nutrition and a healthy lifestyle, that retirement can be a shock, and that illness or disability is costly. Stumbling through the puffery, platitudes, and case histories, one wonders what the point of it all is. Finally, near book's end, geriatric specialists Jarvik and Small reveal their purpose: ""to help you and your parents, effectively and humanely, enhance their autonomy without losing your own."" Oh! Pass this one up in hopes of a more definitive and useful guide.