Dr. Shepard, he of the distasteful confessional A Psychiatrist's Head (1972) and an Albert Ellis look-or-rather-sound-alike, has written a manual which will enable you to become ""shameless and open"" and proceed with honesty and action, often where the action is (if it's adultery -- just tell your husband about it). These are all Encounter-Gestalt based techniques with exercises. . . say take two empty chairs, put your father in one of them, tell him all the resentments you've accumulated, and then change chairs. Thus you can learn to handle blame, rejection, expand and extend your sex life, become more tactile, etc., etc. We just put this book in an empty chair. . . . Nobody picked it up but then there ""are certain occupations where rejection is par for the course.