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BEING THE GROWNUP

LOVE, LIMITS, AND THE NATURAL AUTHORITY OF PARENTHOOD

A wonderfully insightful, back-to-basics approach to parenting.

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A debut guide offers a wide-ranging philosophy of responsible and balanced parenting.

Moore’s book takes on a topic that’s much in the news in the modern era of helicopter and lawn-mower guardians: the nature, limits, and origins of the parenting bond. Like many people who watch the news (or observe modern adults), she’s familiar with the ways that parenting in the 21st century often devolves into a harried series of negotiations, with many well-meaning mothers and fathers lamenting that “I don’t want to impose rules, just guidelines.” These parents are facing more challenges than ever before, including the need to oversee the screen time that has become such an inevitable part of everyone’s lives. The bulk of the author’s manual is a passionate, empathetic reminder to parents that their power isn’t derived from mediations with their charges. Rather, it comes from what the author refers to as “the natural authority of parenthood,” which springs from adults’ responsibility for their children and does not depend on particular strategies. Instead, it’s a functioning relationship in which parents make consistent demands and set firm limits. The book’s gambit extends across the whole spectrum of parenting concerns, including “food, friends, or the Web,” and pays attention to the broader cultural forces that have always been a part of the job. “Culture,” Moore writes, “can be as big as a nationality and as small as a family, with lots of layers in between.” But for all of its topical comprehensiveness, the book never strays far from its central tenet, which is the bedrock relationship between parent and child that morphs throughout its life span. “Many parents worry too much about doing the right thing at any given moment,” the author writes, “but it is less that a particular moment makes the difference than that the accumulation of moments creates a set of expectations for each of you.” Parents of all ages, especially new ones, should find Moore’s easygoing wisdom invaluable.

A wonderfully insightful, back-to-basics approach to parenting.

Pub Date: June 10, 2019

ISBN: 978-0-9848560-7-7

Page Count: 322

Publisher: Time Tunnel Media

Review Posted Online: April 25, 2019

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IN MY PLACE

From the national correspondent for PBS's MacNeil-Lehrer Newshour: a moving memoir of her youth in the Deep South and her role in desegregating the Univ. of Georgia. The eldest daughter of an army chaplain, Hunter-Gault was born in what she calls the ``first of many places that I would call `my place' ''—the small village of Due West, tucked away in a remote little corner of South Carolina. While her father served in Korea, Hunter-Gault and her mother moved first to Covington, Georgia, and then to Atlanta. In ``L.A.'' (lovely Atlanta), surrounded by her loving family and a close-knit black community, the author enjoyed a happy childhood participating in activities at church and at school, where her intellectual and leadership abilities soon were noticed by both faculty and peers. In high school, Hunter-Gault found herself studying the ``comic-strip character Brenda Starr as I might have studied a journalism textbook, had there been one.'' Determined to be a journalist, she applied to several colleges—all outside of Georgia, for ``to discourage the possibility that a black student would even think of applying to one of those white schools, the state provided money for black students'' to study out of state. Accepted at Michigan's Wayne State, the author was encouraged by local civil-rights leaders to apply, along with another classmate, to the Univ. of Georgia as well. Her application became a test of changing racial attitudes, as well as of the growing strength of the civil-rights movement in the South, and Gault became a national figure as she braved an onslaught of hostilities and harassment to become the first black woman to attend the university. A remarkably generous, fair-minded account of overcoming some of the biggest, and most intractable, obstacles ever deployed by southern racists. (Photographs—not seen.)

Pub Date: Nov. 1, 1992

ISBN: 0-374-17563-2

Page Count: 192

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 1, 1992

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A LITTLE HISTORY OF POETRY

Necessarily swift and adumbrative as well as inclusive, focused, and graceful.

A light-speed tour of (mostly) Western poetry, from the 4,000-year-old Gilgamesh to the work of Australian poet Les Murray, who died in 2019.

In the latest entry in the publisher’s Little Histories series, Carey, an emeritus professor at Oxford whose books include What Good Are the Arts? and The Unexpected Professor: An Oxford Life in Books, offers a quick definition of poetry—“relates to language as music relates to noise. It is language made special”—before diving in to poetry’s vast history. In most chapters, the author deals with only a few writers, but as the narrative progresses, he finds himself forced to deal with far more than a handful. In his chapter on 20th-century political poets, for example, he talks about 14 writers in seven pages. Carey displays a determination to inform us about who the best poets were—and what their best poems were. The word “greatest” appears continually; Chaucer was “the greatest medieval English poet,” and Langston Hughes was “the greatest male poet” of the Harlem Renaissance. For readers who need a refresher—or suggestions for the nightstand—Carey provides the best-known names and the most celebrated poems, including Paradise Lost (about which the author has written extensively), “Kubla Khan,” “Ozymandias,” “The Charge of the Light Brigade,” Wordsworth and Coleridge’s Lyrical Ballads, which “changed the course of English poetry.” Carey explains some poetic technique (Hopkins’ “sprung rhythm”) and pauses occasionally to provide autobiographical tidbits—e.g., John Masefield, who wrote the famous “Sea Fever,” “hated the sea.” We learn, as well, about the sexuality of some poets (Auden was bisexual), and, especially later on, Carey discusses the demons that drove some of them, Robert Lowell and Sylvia Plath among them. Refreshingly, he includes many women in the volume—all the way back to Sappho—and has especially kind words for Marianne Moore and Elizabeth Bishop, who share a chapter.

Necessarily swift and adumbrative as well as inclusive, focused, and graceful.

Pub Date: April 21, 2020

ISBN: 978-0-300-23222-6

Page Count: 304

Publisher: Yale Univ.

Review Posted Online: Feb. 8, 2020

Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2020

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