16 packaged lady fingers, split. 3fl ounce package vanilla pudding and pie filling. . . ."" Just in case you think these two haven't gone into sufficient detail about life without a mate, the foregoing is the beginning of a recipe for Chocolate Charlotte, to be served at a dinner party given by a single man. Chapters on what men think is attractive--or not--in women (""Foul language in a female--yuk""); how and where to meet the opposite sex (at Parents without Partners; on the street; in the ""right"" bars). How to cope with children who hate you for divorcing or for not knowing how to keep house; how to choose clothes that are appropriate (never wear doubleknit), all directed at people unused to being single. Whether it's divorce or death that did it, McConnell and Anderson have covered the contingencies, illustrating them with case histories to ease feelings of isolation. Not a thrill, perhaps, but useful.