A frothy guide, primarily geared to financially confortable career women, on how to achieve magical relationships with mate, children, and friends. Interior designer/author Stoddard (Living a Beautiful Life, 1986) starts out with advice on how to nourish oneself in order to have time and energy for others. Always have flowers around, cancel appointments if you're overstressed, stay abed an occasional Sunday. Meanwhile, schedule 10% of your time for "nurturing the spirit in you": Take a bubble bath, engage in your favorite sport, read, meditate, etc. "Mutual respect" makes for harmonious relations with a spouse, with whom one should "live each day as if it is the first and last of your life together." One should also make a beautiful "nest" and consult hubby when decorating the home; schedule time for each other, perhaps an "athome" weekend, with the phone off, meals at fancy restaurants, movie- or museum-going or whatnot. Stoddard--who makes child-rearing sound like a snap--gave her two daughters "unconditional love," encouragement, rituals and rules; voile, they are out of the nest, swanning into a beautiful future. Fans of previous books may lap this up; others are apt to get heartburn.