ENTITLED TO GOOD LOVING

Chapman, host of the Washington, D.C., radio show All About Love, combines hairspray empathy (it's okay to have feelings) and earthy anecdotes from the mating wars (that so-and-so rented that Jaguar for the night?) while playing peacemaker between black women and black men. She's chosen the term ``entitled'' to describe a whole net of conflicts and resentments between them, the general idea being that each group feels the other owes it to them to fill various emotional and spiritual voids. She assigns enough blame to American racism for the current state of estrangement she sees between African-American men and women, but Chapman's not a historian. She's a therapist, and she wants to make everything okay. Brothers and sisters have to do away with ``entitlement'' thinking, power struggles, and the emotional toxins of past disappointments. The book begins with a foreword by writer Marita Golden, who gushes over Chapman as if over a faith healer (down in the dumps a while back, Golden went to Chapman for counseling and- -wonder of wonders—is now happily married). It ends with an invitation to attend one of Chapman's ``Good Loving'' seminars. (Author tour)