When she gets deep into her book, the author risks intimacy with us--by describing her pain when she must express love to her husband. Then, carefully, she traces the problem back to her upbringing. (Review your own family album, she advises throughout, and learn to love the child you were.) Fast offers a host of anecdotes culled from surveys she conducted specifically for this book, or from personal memories and observations of friends, family, and finally herself. If there's anybody out there who hasn't read up on body language, role-playing, transactional analysis, Fast'll summarize all those recent hit theories for you as she describes our bad habits, intimacy substitutes, and roads to cure. Greatest space is dedicated to sexual relationships, but friendships and family ties are investigated, too. This comforting book opens the door to a roomful of risk suggestions, but never pushes us in. It just lets us look, hoping we'll dare to try a little of this, a little of that.