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FETISH GIRL by Bella  LaVey


A Memoir of Sex, Domination, and Motherhood

by Bella LaVey

Pub Date: Nov. 13th, 2018
ISBN: 978-1-63152-435-6
Publisher: She Writes Press

Holistic sexuality educator and coach LaVey shares a life rich with experimentation and eroticism.

Early on in this debut memoir, the author writes dramatically of boarding a bus in New Hampshire—the beginning of years of nomadic wanderings in such locales as Wisconsin (where she pursued a Wiccan-Shamanistic apprenticeship), Pennsylvania, and Central America. She also writes of the happiness and complexity of raising a child as a single parent. However, the memoir centers on LaVey’s sexual awakening, which started when she began a career as an exotic dancer. She entertainingly depicts these early days, graphically describing the pain of a first waxing, wobbling on 6-inch heels “like a giraffe on stilts,” and mastering the art of making money at a strip club. “Stripping walked me down the aisle to kink,” she writes, and her chronicle smoothly transforms into an account of her participation in BDSM subculture. Along the way, she vividly describes sexual experiences, a botched romance, and successfully overcoming drug addiction. She also weaves in the incremental evolution of her dominatrix persona, “Evil Kitty,” as well as varied ruminations about the nature of religion and the intricate dance of sexual dominance and submission. LaVey’s prose has an unfettered honesty as she proudly displays the joys, scars, triumphs, disappointments, and hard-won lessons of her lifestyle. The tone of the narrative is educational and never judgmental or arrogant, allowing readers to understand the author on several different levels—as the daughter of a demanding mother, as a devoted parent, as a dedicated sex worker, and as a formidable, respected person.

Fans of the Fifty Shades series will undoubtedly find much to savor in this ribald, risqué, and captivating remembrance.