WHO'S YOUR REAL MOM?

A child deflects persistent questioning about their family.

Elvi (a child of color with light brown skin and straight, brown hair) has two moms (one of whom has darker skin and hair and one, lighter than Elvi). When Nicholas (who has light brown skin and curly hair) comes over to their house, he asks, “Elvi, which one is your real mom?” Elvi’s initial, confident retort is: “They’re both my real mom.” Elvi patiently offers similar responses as Nicholas persists, then starts to have a little fun with Nicholas. As if to point out the ridiculousness of the questions, Elvi asserts, “She’s the one who can do a handstand on one finger,” and “She’s the one who’s a pirate in disguise.” Meanwhile, the illustrations juxtapose realistic scenes of the children and Elvi’s moms in the background with pictures of the imagined scenarios, the latter of which use lots of blue to visually signify their fantastic nature. Later, Elvi shifts gears to explain that their real mom is “the one who holds me when I’m scared” and “who tucks me into bed.” Nicholas says, “Don’t they both do that?” and Elvi replies, “Exactly.” Ideally, readers who need this message will grasp it sooner than Nicholas does, though perhaps the book’s impact will have more power for those who read it as validation of their own experiences enduring microaggressions.

Potentially affirming—and potentially exhausting.