Yukko. It all boils down to the idea that it doesn't matter whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game. That summarizes things so nicely in fact, that we all might have been spared the psychobabble, sampler philosophy, and peculiar one-sided dialogue that de Koven has chosen to make his point. ""How about another game of Ping Pong?"" the author asks his imaginary opponent, leading us to believe that we have all gone bonkers and hadn't noticed till now. ""Look, I've got an idea. Let's not play for score this time, let's just volley. Maybe then we'll be able to see more clearly when we are playing well together. . . ."" The whole point, see, is that if you play well together, games are fun. That applies to every game from Checkers to football. This sterling thought has been directed at coaches, parents, educators, and a brand new category called ""play facilitators,"" which is what the author calls himself. Some people will do anything to get a job. Actually, the whole effort would better have been directed at insomniacs. Three pages of this, and. . . . . . . .