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HE DID YOU A FAVOR by Debra Rogers

HE DID YOU A FAVOR

A Smart Girl's Guide to Breaking Up, Waking Up, and Discovering the Gift of YOU

by Debra Rogers

Pub Date: Oct. 31st, 2013
ISBN: 978-0991063505
Publisher: Did You A Favor, Inc.

A script analyst and writing coach offers a debut guide to help women get over breakups and regain their self-confidence.

Rogers is very open about her own relationship struggles: Her ex-husband left her for another woman while she was pregnant. Her ability to get through what may be many women’s worst nightmare may make it easy for readers to trust her advice, and here, she dispenses it with a sassy sense of humor, focusing on building her readers up rather than lecturing them about past mistakes. The author strikes a balance between offering women no-nonsense rules to live by and helping them figure out their own personal requirements. She encourages women to figure out exactly what they want out of a relationship, while also emphasizing the importance of being open-minded. For example, in Chapter 6, “He Did You a Favor if You Were Dating the Wrong Type,” she notes, “Leave room for good, old-fashioned spontaneity and maybe, just maybe, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.” Each chapter includes a variety of exercises ranging from a “Date Right for Your Type” nutrition workbook to a multiple-choice test to help readers identify what kind of princess they are. Many are clever, but some, such as the “Do-Yourself-A-Favor-Workbook,” which instructs readers to buy their own promise ring, feel more silly than empowering. The advice also sometimes lapses into cliché—there are a few too many references to drowning one’s sorrows in cookie dough and ice cream. Overall, most of her suggestions are more practical than groundbreaking, but for someone suffering under a cloud of heartbreak, even a straightforward solution can feel like a ray of sunlight.

A snappy, sensible guide to relationships.