A Scottish woman shares her story of surviving and recovering from an abusive 14-year marriage.
Returning to her childhood home to care for her 85-year-old mother, the author reflects on her childhood. Though headstrong, she lacked the self-confidence to heed her father’s advice to â€œbe different and then they will all want to be like you.” This ungrounded wilfulness, she now believes, led her to leave home at the age of 17 to marry her first husband–despite her family’s objections and fears–and then to suffer through those awful years alone. Escaping her marriage was only the beginning of Donoghue’s recovery; in the next several years, she underwent a difficult process of healing deep psychological and emotional wounds for both herself and her oldest son, a drug abuser who ended up institutionalized and homeless. Now living in a happier second marriage, Donoghue credits her recovery to her return to the Church and her rediscovered faith in God, and she includes numerous passages from the Bible throughout the text. The book’s title comes from a saying she remembers relating to a grieving neighbor, though she did not know at the time where the words originated or what they meant. Donoghue’s story of survival and healing is compelling and can offer hope to anyone in similar circumstances. However, for such a short volume, she spends a great deal of time recounting trivia from her adolescence and repeating the basic facts of her story, rather than delving into its details. She explains very briefly how she ultimately escaped from her first husband and the feeling of emptiness that lasted long afterward, even into her second marriage. But she fails to share what might be most useful to readers, such as what exactly made her return to the Church and how she began the healing process.
A slim diary of self-empowerment.