It's a bit like training a toy poodle, actually. Men aren't really mean, they're just emotionally stunted. Even Dick, before Diane rehabilitated him, was ""something like a badly tuned radio."" The reconditioning begins with need shock which the woman administers in freely calibrated volts. Become ""just a little selfish, just a little unreliable."" Make him aware of just how much he needs you. Men have been raised to block out ""the whole vast range of soft, strange, ephemeral, barely describable emotions."" But you can change all that. Use ""saturation sex""; teach him to play encounter group ""trust games""; and forget the ""long talk"" gambit--it won't work. Next thing you know he'll be sending you flowers and begging to do the dinner dishes. You bet your sweet bippy, he will.