Unless used as a now and then book, this fastidiously detailed catalog of a thousand and one suggestions on rearing the pre-schooler is guaranteed to submerge even the sturdlest mother and homemaker in a sea of frustration. Were the average American housewife (for whom the book is intended) to attempt even a fraction of Mrs. Burnett's ""ingenious"" bles, she would soon require special assistance in unearthing and keeping all the lists, file cards, logs and diaries suggested on everything from buying clothes, storing toys, nursing the sick child, to travelling en famille. Here is a case where gimmicks reign supreme as mother rushes about assembling the food for her reluctant young bather's bath water, all the toys and lists of quiet for travel, and switching roles with Junior at table to teach good manners by . The er is dited with an appailling lack of experience, even common sense. There are long lists of clothing to be worn during travel by father, mother and the children, foods to order in restaurants, advice against offering the child sweets before meals, and suggestions regarding the most elementary rules of casual friendships. The few good things here -- seasonal activities (not referring to beach in summer or car ride in fall) rainy day fun, and party preparations,- are hardly worth the trouble to hunt them down.