Eda LeShan dispenses equal amounts of reassurance that ""your"" uncertainties and anxieties and ambivalence toward your parents are normal despite the ""conspiracy among young people to hide their true feelings from each other,"" sympathetically conservative advice on adjusting to school, postponing sex and avoiding drags (however unjust marijuana laws may seem it is you who will suffer from breaking them. . .and if your parents are strict about dating it's because they do remember -- and understand very well indeed -- what it's like to be young), and encouragement to be yourself (though sometimes you begin to wonder if there is a real you) since trying to conform to parents' or friends' expectations just doesn't work. Grandmotherly comfort.