Or 101 ways to say that divorce might be the best thing that ever happened to you. In a drawn-out paean to the Wonder bread school of psychology (""Is your marriage supplying you with the essential nutrients you need for growth?""), Walder exhorts dissatisfied but timid spouses to cast aside fear and soar off into the sunset (""True security is found in change""). The strongest bond perpetuating worn-out marriages, from the stagnant to the sado-masochistic variety, is characterized as an unhealthy emotional dependence that mirrors childhood dependence on parents. If you are in doubt about whether it is time to make a break, dozens of checklists will see you through. Prepared scripts demonstrate how to deal with hostile children, hostile (and even suicidal) spouses, and hostile parents (""I can't live my life to please you or anyone else""). A pep talk for the spineless who have had enough.