EVERYBODY (ELSE) IS PERFECT

Debut essays from the director of fashion and culture at Refinery29.

Though Korn, the former editor-in-chief at Nylon Media, worked at women’s magazines throughout her 20s, their constant use of thin, cisgender cover models often collided with her ideals of diversity, inclusivity, and body positivity. Before the concept of being “woke” gathered steam, the author promoted change, penning viral columns on subjects like body hair. “As women’s media grapples with how to be more positive and inclusive while covering topics like fashion and beauty,” writes the author, “I frequently find myself caught between two worlds—the world of empowerment culture and the world of perfectionism.” In addition to chronicling her rapid rise to the top of Nylon Media, Korn offers intimate forays into her struggles with anorexia, coming out as a lesbian, and finding meaningful love. The narrative serves as a poignant insider’s look at women's digital media as well as a tender retrospective on growing into adulthood in the early 2000s. The author is honest about her enviable position as a tastemaker, though some readers may not muster sympathy for her depictions of salary negotiations or dressing for Fashion Week. In the breezy, clever “Low-Rise,” denim trends inspire reflection on the complexities of sexuality, body image, gender presentation, progressive politics, and social media. “I was coming of age in a time when everything was hypersexualized,” she writes, “but I didn’t understand the relationship between that and actual sex, a disconnect that’s one of the main reasons I didn’t realize I was gay until after high school: it was like being disembodied.” Particularly incisive is Korn’s essay on feminist language being co-opted for profit while one of the author’s themes—that feminism and aesthetics needn't be at odds but that the beauty and fashion industry still need to change—is keenly observed, if familiar. Korn also offers darker reflections about personal and wider pressures on women.

A confident, confessional modern account of breaking free from image obsession.