THREE-MARTINI AFTERNOONS AT THE RITZ

An unlikely friendship illuminates each poet's life.

In the spring of 1959, Sylvia Plath (1932-1963) and Anne Sexton (1928-1974) were both students in a Boston University poetry writing workshop led by Robert Lowell. After class, along with classmate George Starbuck—Sexton’s lover at the time—they would repair to the bar at the tony Ritz-Carlton, overlooking the Public Garden, to drink martinis and talk. “Family, poetry, husbands, sex, and Boston gossip in general were all fascinating topics,” as were therapy and the women’s attempts at suicide—“the center bolt of the relationship, the death connection.” After Plath returned to England in late 1959, their friendship played out in letters that reveal rivalry, respect, and growing admiration. Drawing on biographies, published letters and journals, and archival sources, Crowther, author or co-author of three previous books on Plath, uses their meetings at the Ritz as a springboard for a sympathetic recounting of the poets’ lives, underscoring their struggles against prevailing images of womanhood. Although in appearance and personality the two were quite different—Plath, “neat and self-contained,” Sexton, “wilder and more flamboyant”—Crowther sees commonalities in their efforts to escape “the cultural and historical messages they had absorbed” about women’s aspirations and behavior. Both, for example, tried to reconcile their creative drive and ambition with motherhood. Plath, a friend recalled, “desperately wanted to be a mother but was terrified it would get in the way of her poetry.” Sexton, who was bipolar, plummeted into recurring depressions after her daughters were born. Crowther laments that “Plath and Sexton are portrayed as crazy, suicidal women, an attitude that impressively manages to sweep up sexism and stigma toward mental illness and suicide in one powerful ball of dismissal.” As a corrective, she shows them as “so ahead of their time,” with their works and the examples of their lives contributing still to “the long slow struggle that is social change.”

A perceptive dual biography.