LIFEMATES by Harold Bloomfield

LIFEMATES

The Love Fitness Program for a Lasting Relationship
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How to achieve "lasting passionate love" through communication-enhancing "exercises." To improve listening ability, one partner spews out grievances while the other simply nods and says, "Tell me more." Self-disclosure fears are dissolved, it seems, when lovers reveal their "deepest selves" by completing 91 statements developed by the authors: "What I feel to be crucial to world peace is. . ."; "The way I would feel more loved by you is. . ." Other statements divulge "feelings" and "secrets." To diffuse anger, a lover vents a complaint in a series of brief assertions: "I feel betrayed. . ." The partner repeats: "You feel betrayed. . ." There's more: writing out sexual fantasies about each other and even some erotica. Bloomfield (coauthor of Inner Joy, 1980) and Vettese developed these techniques during a rocky patch in their marriage and new employ them in their couple-counseling practice. Presumably the techniques work for their patients, and maybe they'll work for readers, too.

ISBN: 453-00645-0
Publisher: NAL/Berkley
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