HAPPY IS COOL.
How to Ignite the True Happiness in You
life coach Brocato’s (Manage Yourself,
2011, etc.) third self-help book describes how to achieve “coolness” by
cultivating positive traits that engender happiness.
of coolness changes at different stages of life. High schoolers may be
preoccupied with wearing eyeliner, for example, while adults may be consumed by
their desires to have families and contribute to their communities. This book
shows that wherever one is on the spectrum, coolness is fundamentally about having
self-confidence based on genuine achievements, which allows one to feel good
and project happiness to others. In a conversational style, Brocato presents a
single idea at the beginning of each chapter, such as “Empathize with Others” or
“Limit Your Worry,” and then delineates precisely what it means. For “Respect
Everyone,” for example, he writes, “No one in this world is better than anyone
else. Someone might be the president of the United States, or a scratch golfer,
or a billionaire, but he or she is no better than any one of us as a person or
spiritual being. Every single person in this world deserves the utmost respect.”
He groups these ideas into sets of five, and then reviews them in “Visioning
Coaching Keys” sections, which invite readers to answer specific questions (“What would your life be like if you took
more time to think before you spoke? Would your relationships be stronger?”).
The book’s warm, good-natured approach to life leads to solid, if unoriginal,
advice, and Brocato’s examples of “cool” moments, such as trusting one’s gut
feelings in matters of love and risk-taking, are inspiring without being
groundbreaking. That said, the book’s broad advice will help readers who are willing
to put the work into understanding their own desires. It also offers them the
comfort of knowing that by honoring such values, they’ll eventually attain a
feeling that’s far more desirable than the chilly, removed perspective
traditionally associated with being “cool.”
straightforward, concise self-help guide for readers who have the courage to
trust their own feelings.