An inspiring tale of a mother’s perseverance and acceptance of her son’s terminal illness.

GRIEVING WITH GRACE

In this heartfelt memoir, Fournier (Two from Egypt, 1987) details the tragic deterioration of her son, John, who contracted HIV in the 1980s.

John’s fear of his disease drove him to resist any method of care, and he denied himself treatment of any kind. Even more heartbreaking, his mother, Fournier, watched as John retreated from her and his two brothers, Anthony and Jeffrey, and moved from his family home in Northern California to New Mexico. Jeanne’s second husband insisted that John not be brought back to their home, so Fournier followed him to New Mexico, determined to help her recalcitrant son. John, horrified by his mother’s assistance, ran away from his mother, but he found salvation almost despite himself in the arms of an old friend. As John continued to challenge his mother, she encountered many people who guided and supported her, including a nurse, Debbie, who took a particular interest in helping John. Debbie and several others served as guardian angels throughout this ordeal. John’s anger at being brought to hospice caused him to distance himself from Jeanne and led to his responding to her overtures with coldness and apathy. All the while, however, Jeanne continued to see the hand of God in her life, even as her son’s disease threatened to end his life and their relationship continued to fray. Jeanne’s connection to God and spirituality carried her through the thankless and painful task of supporting her son, and when John dies with so much left unresolved, Jeanne found that she could communicate with her son from the “other side,” perhaps even more than when he was alive. This compelling and at times magical account draws together miracles and spiritual insight. Jeanne, despite numerous heart-wrenching challenges, manages to maintain her faith in God. Her story is singular and moving, containing miraculous, uplifting moments.

An inspiring tale of a mother’s perseverance and acceptance of her son’s terminal illness.

Pub Date: Jan. 17, 2013

ISBN: 978-1478259831

Page Count: 52

Publisher: CreateSpace

Review Posted Online: Feb. 21, 2013

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If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.

THE 48 LAWS OF POWER

The authors have created a sort of anti-Book of Virtues in this encyclopedic compendium of the ways and means of power.

Everyone wants power and everyone is in a constant duplicitous game to gain more power at the expense of others, according to Greene, a screenwriter and former editor at Esquire (Elffers, a book packager, designed the volume, with its attractive marginalia). We live today as courtiers once did in royal courts: we must appear civil while attempting to crush all those around us. This power game can be played well or poorly, and in these 48 laws culled from the history and wisdom of the world’s greatest power players are the rules that must be followed to win. These laws boil down to being as ruthless, selfish, manipulative, and deceitful as possible. Each law, however, gets its own chapter: “Conceal Your Intentions,” “Always Say Less Than Necessary,” “Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy,” and so on. Each chapter is conveniently broken down into sections on what happened to those who transgressed or observed the particular law, the key elements in this law, and ways to defensively reverse this law when it’s used against you. Quotations in the margins amplify the lesson being taught. While compelling in the way an auto accident might be, the book is simply nonsense. Rules often contradict each other. We are told, for instance, to “be conspicuous at all cost,” then told to “behave like others.” More seriously, Greene never really defines “power,” and he merely asserts, rather than offers evidence for, the Hobbesian world of all against all in which he insists we live. The world may be like this at times, but often it isn’t. To ask why this is so would be a far more useful project.

If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.

Pub Date: Sept. 1, 1998

ISBN: 0-670-88146-5

Page Count: 430

Publisher: Viking

Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 1998

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A very welcome instance of philosophy that can help readers live a good life.

THE ART OF SOLITUDE

A teacher and scholar of Buddhism offers a formally varied account of the available rewards of solitude.

“As Mother Ayahuasca takes me in her arms, I realize that last night I vomited up my attachment to Buddhism. In passing out, I died. In coming to, I was, so to speak, reborn. I no longer have to fight these battles, I repeat to myself. I am no longer a combatant in the dharma wars. It feels as if the course of my life has shifted onto another vector, like a train shunted off its familiar track onto a new trajectory.” Readers of Batchelor’s previous books (Secular Buddhism: Imagining the Dharma in an Uncertain World, 2017, etc.) will recognize in this passage the culmination of his decadeslong shift away from the religious commitments of Buddhism toward an ecumenical and homegrown philosophy of life. Writing in a variety of modes—memoir, history, collage, essay, biography, and meditation instruction—the author doesn’t argue for his approach to solitude as much as offer it for contemplation. Essentially, Batchelor implies that if you read what Buddha said here and what Montaigne said there, and if you consider something the author has noticed, and if you reflect on your own experience, you have the possibility to improve the quality of your life. For introspective readers, it’s easy to hear in this approach a direct response to Pascal’s claim that “all of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Batchelor wants to relieve us of this inability by offering his example of how to do just that. “Solitude is an art. Mental training is needed to refine and stabilize it,” he writes. “When you practice solitude, you dedicate yourself to the care of the soul.” Whatever a soul is, the author goes a long way toward soothing it.

A very welcome instance of philosophy that can help readers live a good life.

Pub Date: Feb. 18, 2020

ISBN: 978-0-300-25093-0

Page Count: 200

Publisher: Yale Univ.

Review Posted Online: Nov. 25, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 15, 2019

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