A clear and readable introduction to building healthier relationships through better communication.
A concise, illustrated conflict-resolution handbook.
In his slim nonfiction debut, Goulet centers on the roots of conflicts with the aim of providing basic, common-sense resolutions: “The goal of a well working relationship is not the absence of conflict or differences,” he writes, “it’s the ability of couples to resolve these problems so they can move on and enjoy being together.” The author, a marriage and family therapist with 30 years of experience, takes readers through a simplified breakdown of the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Model, briefly elaborating on its five conflict styles—avoiding, accommodating, compromising, competing, and collaborating—with successful and unsuccessful scenarios clearly illustrated in Lee’s (The Puppy Explorer, 2018, etc.) black-and-white pen-and-ink drawings. Goulet stresses simple, straightforward techniques, from mirroring (in which one partner repeats back what the other has said, not to challenge it, but to hear it clearly) to negotiation and meaningful compromise, and he also explores common mistakes, such as interrupting, stating problems in vague and unhelpful terms, or indulging in anger. Indeed, one of the book’s main themes is that anger—or rather, the improper expression of it—never helps a situation. Goulet advises readers to be mindful of their own feelings in order to better understand how situations can affect them in subtle ways. The author’s direct, plainspoken language combines very effectively with Lee’s simple illustrations to produce a highly accessible guide to basic couples-conflict resolution. It portrays everyday scenes, such as sharing household chores or deciding on a restaurant, in ways that readers will find instantly recognizable, and Goulet’s suggestions for how to handle arising conflicts are encouragingly basic. It may seem oversimplified at times, but it is, at its heart, an entry-level assessment of communication problems, with no digressions into more complex interrelations of the Thomas-Kilmann model. It serves as a useful reminder that relationship problems can sometimes be fairly easy to resolve.
A clear and readable introduction to building healthier relationships through better communication.Pub Date: N/A
ISBN: 978-1-73391-921-0
Page Count: 63
Publisher: Time Tunnel Media
Review Posted Online: June 11, 2019
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
From the national correspondent for PBS's MacNeil-Lehrer Newshour: a moving memoir of her youth in the Deep South and her role in desegregating the Univ. of Georgia. The eldest daughter of an army chaplain, Hunter-Gault was born in what she calls the ``first of many places that I would call `my place' ''—the small village of Due West, tucked away in a remote little corner of South Carolina. While her father served in Korea, Hunter-Gault and her mother moved first to Covington, Georgia, and then to Atlanta. In ``L.A.'' (lovely Atlanta), surrounded by her loving family and a close-knit black community, the author enjoyed a happy childhood participating in activities at church and at school, where her intellectual and leadership abilities soon were noticed by both faculty and peers. In high school, Hunter-Gault found herself studying the ``comic-strip character Brenda Starr as I might have studied a journalism textbook, had there been one.'' Determined to be a journalist, she applied to several colleges—all outside of Georgia, for ``to discourage the possibility that a black student would even think of applying to one of those white schools, the state provided money for black students'' to study out of state. Accepted at Michigan's Wayne State, the author was encouraged by local civil-rights leaders to apply, along with another classmate, to the Univ. of Georgia as well. Her application became a test of changing racial attitudes, as well as of the growing strength of the civil-rights movement in the South, and Gault became a national figure as she braved an onslaught of hostilities and harassment to become the first black woman to attend the university. A remarkably generous, fair-minded account of overcoming some of the biggest, and most intractable, obstacles ever deployed by southern racists. (Photographs—not seen.)
Pub Date: Nov. 1, 1992
ISBN: 0-374-17563-2
Page Count: 192
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 1, 1992
Necessarily swift and adumbrative as well as inclusive, focused, and graceful.
A light-speed tour of (mostly) Western poetry, from the 4,000-year-old Gilgamesh to the work of Australian poet Les Murray, who died in 2019.
In the latest entry in the publisher’s Little Histories series, Carey, an emeritus professor at Oxford whose books include What Good Are the Arts? and The Unexpected Professor: An Oxford Life in Books, offers a quick definition of poetry—“relates to language as music relates to noise. It is language made special”—before diving in to poetry’s vast history. In most chapters, the author deals with only a few writers, but as the narrative progresses, he finds himself forced to deal with far more than a handful. In his chapter on 20th-century political poets, for example, he talks about 14 writers in seven pages. Carey displays a determination to inform us about who the best poets were—and what their best poems were. The word “greatest” appears continually; Chaucer was “the greatest medieval English poet,” and Langston Hughes was “the greatest male poet” of the Harlem Renaissance. For readers who need a refresher—or suggestions for the nightstand—Carey provides the best-known names and the most celebrated poems, including Paradise Lost (about which the author has written extensively), “Kubla Khan,” “Ozymandias,” “The Charge of the Light Brigade,” Wordsworth and Coleridge’s Lyrical Ballads, which “changed the course of English poetry.” Carey explains some poetic technique (Hopkins’ “sprung rhythm”) and pauses occasionally to provide autobiographical tidbits—e.g., John Masefield, who wrote the famous “Sea Fever,” “hated the sea.” We learn, as well, about the sexuality of some poets (Auden was bisexual), and, especially later on, Carey discusses the demons that drove some of them, Robert Lowell and Sylvia Plath among them. Refreshingly, he includes many women in the volume—all the way back to Sappho—and has especially kind words for Marianne Moore and Elizabeth Bishop, who share a chapter.
Necessarily swift and adumbrative as well as inclusive, focused, and graceful.Pub Date: April 21, 2020
ISBN: 978-0-300-23222-6
Page Count: 304
Publisher: Yale Univ.
Review Posted Online: Feb. 8, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2020
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