HOLA PAPI

Life counsel from an LGBTQ+ advice columnist.

In his sassy, entertaining debut collection, Brooklyn-based author and illustrator Brammer doles out sage guidance for primarily gay male audiences through personal anecdotes and memories. He shares bold, unique perspectives on a variety of subjects, including his attempts to forgive a childhood bully, navigating the “hook-up” app culture, and acing the “serious mental gymnastics” involved in moving from a closeted kid to an out gay man. Brammer derived the name of his advice column from the first greeting he received on the Grindr app. From there, he gained in popularity as he began addressing a host of situational, sexual, relationship-oriented, and racially diversified issues within the LGBTQ+ and Latinx communities. The author humorously and candidly discusses his personal coming-out process and thirst for knowledge about the gay community, and his authentic voice will appeal to and resonate with readers navigating their own sexual identities. Brammer also writes about his mixed-race history as a Mexican American son of a “brown woman from Texas” and a “white man from Oklahoma” alongside a beloved abuela doling out tough love. For the author, school days were tough and lonely, the exact opposite of his parents’ experiences at the same schools, where they were popular basketball superstars. Brammer also revisits decisions he made about working in Mexican restaurants in high school after recognizing that he “wasn’t Mexican enough”—decisions his abuela disdained: “I was deliberately undermining all the hard work Abuela had put into making me white.” As free-flowing commentary on identity, Latinx culture, and tradition commingle with Brammer’s contemporary urban gay experience, the narrative is packed with illuminatingly frank perspectives. Some sections, which answer fan questions on how to dress “gayer,” aren’t nearly as impactful, but the sum of Brammer’s life experiences will prove charming, instructional, and frequently relatable for his established readership and those seeking time-tested advice on contemporary conundrums within the gay community.

Contemporary lighthearted wisdom (and some campy fun) for LGBTQ+ audiences.