Despite some genuinely beautiful recollections, this account remains too haphazardly constructed to sustain the reader’s...


After the death of his wife, an author goes on the road and writes an eclectic memoir. 

Schwartz (In the Shadow of Babylon, 2011) lost his wife of 41 years to amyotrophic lateral sclerosis—Lou Gehrig’s disease. The descent into death was a slow one for Emily and ultimately involved the painful deterioration of her body. When she finally died, the author sold his impressive home nestled within a golf course—the one Emily grew up in—and set out on a kind of therapeutic walking tour, collecting new friends and adventures along the way. One day, he received a book in the mail—it turned out to be a memoir Emily wrote unbeknownst to him—and that remembrance inspired him to pen his own. Schwartz darts quickly back and forth between the remote and more proximate pasts—sometimes he details his family’s ancestry, his previous two marriages, or his travels with Emily through Italy and Japan. His meditations frequently refer to or even revolve around the libidinal pull of sex: his sexual escapades in Asia, his youthful philandering, his fascination with erections, and the peculiar relationship between sexuality and shame. Schwartz also discusses his shiftless youth—he was rescued from a drunken driving arrest at the age of 17 when a compassionate police officer promised to ditch the paperwork if he joined the Air Force (and so he did). The author became a very successful businessman—he was a millionaire by 30—as well as an award-winning writer. As the title suggests, this volume is an untidy mélange of recollections and commentary, so compulsively digressive that it often becomes exhausting. Schwartz becomes focused when he movingly writes of his love for Emily, with the book as a whole a kind of meandering love letter to her. The stories he shares are sometimes hilarious, but the prose overall is manically quip-laden and often remarkably condescending. In one painful scene, he sententiously lectures a priest on the moral failings of religion (“Muslims worldwide and from all walks of life…unequivocally and unapologetically proclaim that Islam instructs them to hate, subjugate, and kill all who resist it”). It’s impossible not to be touched by the author’s tender affection for his wife, but the work as a whole is maddeningly disorganized and smug. 

Despite some genuinely beautiful recollections, this account remains too haphazardly constructed to sustain the reader’s attention.

Pub Date: N/A


Page Count: -

Publisher: Joss International

Review Posted Online: Oct. 19, 2020

Did you like this book?

No Comments Yet

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Our Verdict

  • Our Verdict
  • GET IT

  • New York Times Bestseller

  • IndieBound Bestseller


More life reflections from the bestselling author on themes of societal captivity and the catharsis of personal freedom.

In her third book, Doyle (Love Warrior, 2016, etc.) begins with a life-changing event. “Four years ago,” she writes, “married to the father of my three children, I fell in love with a woman.” That woman, Abby Wambach, would become her wife. Emblematically arranged into three sections—“Caged,” “Keys,” “Freedom”—the narrative offers, among other elements, vignettes about the soulful author’s girlhood, when she was bulimic and felt like a zoo animal, a “caged girl made for wide-open skies.” She followed the path that seemed right and appropriate based on her Catholic upbringing and adolescent conditioning. After a downward spiral into “drinking, drugging, and purging,” Doyle found sobriety and the authentic self she’d been suppressing. Still, there was trouble: Straining an already troubled marriage was her husband’s infidelity, which eventually led to life-altering choices and the discovery of a love she’d never experienced before. Throughout the book, Doyle remains open and candid, whether she’s admitting to rigging a high school homecoming court election or denouncing the doting perfectionism of “cream cheese parenting,” which is about “giving your children the best of everything.” The author’s fears and concerns are often mirrored by real-world issues: gender roles and bias, white privilege, racism, and religion-fueled homophobia and hypocrisy. Some stories merely skim the surface of larger issues, but Doyle revisits them in later sections and digs deeper, using friends and familial references to personify their impact on her life, both past and present. Shorter pieces, some only a page in length, manage to effectively translate an emotional gut punch, as when Doyle’s therapist called her blooming extramarital lesbian love a “dangerous distraction.” Ultimately, the narrative is an in-depth look at a courageous woman eager to share the wealth of her experiences by embracing vulnerability and reclaiming her inner strength and resiliency.

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Pub Date: March 10, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-9848-0125-8

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Dial Books

Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020

Did you like this book?

If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.


The authors have created a sort of anti-Book of Virtues in this encyclopedic compendium of the ways and means of power.

Everyone wants power and everyone is in a constant duplicitous game to gain more power at the expense of others, according to Greene, a screenwriter and former editor at Esquire (Elffers, a book packager, designed the volume, with its attractive marginalia). We live today as courtiers once did in royal courts: we must appear civil while attempting to crush all those around us. This power game can be played well or poorly, and in these 48 laws culled from the history and wisdom of the world’s greatest power players are the rules that must be followed to win. These laws boil down to being as ruthless, selfish, manipulative, and deceitful as possible. Each law, however, gets its own chapter: “Conceal Your Intentions,” “Always Say Less Than Necessary,” “Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy,” and so on. Each chapter is conveniently broken down into sections on what happened to those who transgressed or observed the particular law, the key elements in this law, and ways to defensively reverse this law when it’s used against you. Quotations in the margins amplify the lesson being taught. While compelling in the way an auto accident might be, the book is simply nonsense. Rules often contradict each other. We are told, for instance, to “be conspicuous at all cost,” then told to “behave like others.” More seriously, Greene never really defines “power,” and he merely asserts, rather than offers evidence for, the Hobbesian world of all against all in which he insists we live. The world may be like this at times, but often it isn’t. To ask why this is so would be a far more useful project.

If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.

Pub Date: Sept. 1, 1998

ISBN: 0-670-88146-5

Page Count: 430

Publisher: Viking

Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 1998

Did you like this book?