In fewer than 20 pages, Cassarino attempts to guide readers through the pain of divorce via a combination of positive thinking, laws of attraction, self-help books, and communing with nature.
After Cassarino, a divorce coach, was complimented by a client on his ability to provide “amazing advice…better than that of a Ph.D.,” he was inspired to start a website to help others deal with divorce. Here, he provides information based on his personal experience rather than formal training. In the author’s view, “people experiencing divorce do not always think clearly, and often make irrational decisions,” ultimately exacerbating an already tenuous and stressful situation. The author suggests considering “every event as part of the journey instead of viewing the event with anger or hatred” and using the struggle as “an opportunity for self-growth and personal development.” He notes that his own divorce taught him patience and forgiveness as well as compassion. To begin healing, the author suggests reading self-help and spiritual authors such as Wayne Dyer, Ester Hicks, and John Dimartini and practicing the “Law of Attraction” (simply asking the universe for what one wants). With a “combination of professional therapy, reading a book a week and connecting to nature,” the author felt he was able to heal more quickly. The first important step toward personal growth begins with a mindset shift—making the conscious decision to be happy to help ease emotional pain. Cassarino—a big proponent of positive thinking—notes humans have the power to do anything they put their minds to, a technique he personally proved by defeating a 35-year smoking habit. While self-help books and positive thinking are great first steps, says Cassarino, he warns depression should never be ignored and even gives his phone number for those in need. Though there is nothing truly original offered here, the tips and suggestions are serviceable, though they should not be viewed as anything more than helpful, friendly advice.
A straightforward, slim handbook for those in emotional distress.