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A comprehensive relationship manual focuses on nonmonogamous couples.

Loree uses her experience as a therapist and as someone who is fluid (moves between monogamous and nonmonogamous relationships) to shape the lessons in this well-crafted book. This guide “allows you to avoid pitfalls and find adventure as you build healthy” nonmonogamous relationships. From the beginning, the author emphasizes transparency, consent, and communication as the qualities that are the cornerstone of a strong nonmonogamous bond. Relationship quality, not longevity, is the measure of success that Loree uses throughout her manual. To orient readers, she defines terms such as polyamory relationships(the triad, the quad, the V), primary partners, and hierarchical attachmentswhile underscoring the fact that nonmonogamous bonds can be customized for each person. The book covers how to build trust with partners, practice self-compassion, and cope with jealousy. To strengthen her theories, Loree uses examples of LGBTQ+ and heterosexual couples she has helped in therapy to demonstrate how to handle conflicts that may arise in nonmonogamous relationships. She provides tangible strategies for building vigorous connections, even drawing on her own experiences in a nonmonogamous relationship. For example, when Loree began to feel jealous of her partner’s girlfriend and the fun they had, she made an important discovery. She recognized that she did not have to be everything to her partner. There is no aspect of a relationship that Loree doesn’t cover. She explains how to break down cultural programming, examines how mood disorders and personality can affect relationships, and analyzes different types of attachments. She also guides readers through the coming out process to friends, family, and children. Loree’s tone is professional, compassionate, and informative. Her credibility and expertise as a therapist inform the valuable guidance that she delivers in each chapter.

An excellent, well-structured, and thorough guide for readers seeking nonmonogamous relationships.