Sure to be controversial, as well as encouraging to many, many women.
Moms may say they have no time to read—but they’ll make time for this discussion of brainy motherhood.
Women talk all the time about “Mommy Brain.” (In the UK, they call it “porridge brain.”) After you have a baby, you just feel stupider. You suspect your brain cells leak out with your breast milk. Pulitzer-winning Ellison (The New Economy of Nature, 2002, etc.) is determined to show that such loss is a myth. She admits that critical reasoning skills may take a few hits from sleep deprivation in early motherhood. But, she says, scientists at universities all over the country are doing studies to uncover what exactly happens to women’s brains during and after pregnancy, and many indicate that motherhood actually makes women smarter. Ellison devotes the heart of her argument to detailing “Five Attributes of a Baby-Boosted Brain,” showing that mothers’ perception, efficiency, resiliency, motivation, and emotional intelligence may all be the better for pregnancy and motherhood. After arguing for Mom smarts, Ellison turns practical, exploring how women can apply their new savvy. She encourages mothers to translate what they’ve learned through mothering back into the workplace. (You give your children the illusion of control, asking them if they want a peanut butter sandwich or a cheese sandwich, but not asking them the more open-ended “What do you want for lunch?” The same tactic works wonders for managers at the office.) The importance of socializing—seeing friends actually makes your brain work better, and being part of a community can help stave off post-partum depression—is a welcome theme that Ellison sounds throughout. Occasionally, however, she succumbs to the hackneyed and obvious: moms should feel free to sneak off and see a movie or have an espresso in peace. She’s also limited by certain class assumptions. Her suggestions for navigating the “mommy track,” for example, presume a white-collar readership.
Sure to be controversial, as well as encouraging to many, many women.Pub Date: April 1, 2005
ISBN: 0-465-01905-6
Page Count: 288
Publisher: Basic Books
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 1, 2005
A highly readable account of how solid research and personal testing of self-help techniques saved a couple's marriage after...
Self-help advice and personal reflections on avoiding spousal fights while raising children.
Before her daughter was born, bestselling author Dunn (Why Is My Mother Getting a Tattoo?: And Other Questions I Wish I Never Had to Ask, 2009, etc.) enjoyed steady work and a happy marriage. However, once she became a mother, there never seemed to be enough time, sleep, and especially help from her husband. Little irritations became monumental obstacles between them, which led to major battles. Consequently, they turned to expensive couples' therapy to help them regain some peace in life. In a combination of memoir and advice that can be found in most couples' therapy self-help books, Dunn provides an inside look at her own vexing issues and the solutions she and her husband used to prevent them from appearing in divorce court. They struggled with age-old battles fought between men and women—e.g., frequency of sex, who does more housework, who should get up with the child in the middle of the night, why women need to have a clean house, why men need more alone time, and many more. What Dunn learned via therapy, talks with other parents, and research was that there is no perfect solution to the many dynamics that surface once couples become parents. But by using time-tested techniques, she and her husband learned to listen, show empathy, and adjust so that their former status as a happy couple could safely and peacefully morph into a happy family. Readers familiar with Dunn's honest and humorous writing will appreciate the behind-the-scenes look at her own semi-messy family life, and those who need guidance through the rough spots can glean advice while being entertained—all without spending lots of money on couples’ therapy.
A highly readable account of how solid research and personal testing of self-help techniques saved a couple's marriage after the birth of their child.Pub Date: March 21, 2017
ISBN: 978-0-316-26710-6
Page Count: 272
Publisher: Little, Brown
Review Posted Online: Jan. 17, 2017
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Feb. 1, 2017
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A miscellany of paternal pride (and frustration) darkened by the author’s increasing realizations of his mortality.
Ruminations and reminiscences of an author—now in his 70s—about fatherhood, writing, and death.
O’Brien (July, July, 2002, etc.), who achieved considerable literary fame with both Going After Cacciato (1978) and The Things They Carried (1990), returns with an eclectic assembly of pieces that grow increasingly valedictory as the idea of mortality creeps in. (The title comes from the author’s uncertainty about his ability to assemble these pieces in a single volume.) He begins and ends with a letter: The initial one is to his first son (from 2003); the terminal one, to his two sons, both of whom are now teens (the present). Throughout the book, there are a number of recurring sections: “Home School” (lessons for his sons to accomplish), “The Magic Show” (about his long interest in magic), and “Pride” (about his feelings for his sons’ accomplishments). O’Brien also writes often about his own father. One literary figure emerges as almost a member of the family: Ernest Hemingway. The author loves Hemingway’s work (except when he doesn’t) and often gives his sons some of Papa’s most celebrated stories to read and think and write about. Near the end is a kind of stand-alone essay about Hemingway’s writings about war and death, which O’Brien realizes is Hemingway’s real subject. Other celebrated literary figures pop up in the text, including Elizabeth Bishop, Andrew Marvell, George Orwell, and Flannery O’Connor. Although O’Brien’s strong anti-war feelings are prominent throughout, his principal interest is fatherhood—specifically, at becoming a father later in his life and realizing that he will miss so much of his sons’ lives. He includes touching and amusing stories about his toddler sons, about the sadness he felt when his older son became a teen and began to distance himself, and about his anguish when his sons failed at something.
A miscellany of paternal pride (and frustration) darkened by the author’s increasing realizations of his mortality.Pub Date: Oct. 14, 2019
ISBN: 978-0-618-03970-8
Page Count: 384
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
Review Posted Online: July 27, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 2019
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