An inspirational story of moving past emotional trauma and realizing that “life is solely what you make of it.”

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BLEMISHED BUT NOT BROKEN

A debut memoir details the many psychic wounds the author incurred in her relationships.

Adams (a pen name) decided to embark on this book when, unhappy in her work, she met an astrologist who told her she had not yet fulfilled her life’s purpose and that writing her story would be a therapeutic exercise and also help others. She begins with a sudden traumatic memory of being raped by an older neighbor boy when she was about 5 years old. A sense of being “marked emotionally” followed her throughout her childhood, especially with her mentally ill mother in and out of psychiatric wards. The aloofness and negativity she experienced from her mother drove her to seek affirmation elsewhere, especially from Mr. Santini, her eighth-grade science teacher, with whom she had a yearslong emotional affair. Although Mr. Santini called her his “number one” and repeatedly stated that he’d like to do “you-know-what” with her, their relationship never became physical. Nevertheless, Adams feels “robbed of my youthful years.…I placed myself in a fantasy world and didn’t enjoy the normal activities of someone my own age.” She bravely documents how a “snowball of poor choices” led to multiple broken romantic relationships in her 20s, including one with a dentist who impregnated her, and expresses frustration with herself at how long she often took to break free of unhealthy bonds. Crucially, although she tells meticulous stories of how various people—such as her brother’s ex-wife, Terri —left her emotionally scarred, Adams never comes across here as bitter or a victim. Instead, she speaks of the opportunities these people gave her to face up to her anger and develop newfound self-respect. Looking back from her current situation of being happily married and reconnected with her family, she can see that although “I had dysfunction in my genes and a lot of baggage that I carried with me,” she has remained a caring person with no regrets. Ultimately, this earnest and stirring account offers an overall sense of progression and healing.

An inspirational story of moving past emotional trauma and realizing that “life is solely what you make of it.” 

Pub Date: Feb. 3, 2017

ISBN: 978-1-5043-7406-4

Page Count: 212

Publisher: BalboaPress

Review Posted Online: June 7, 2017

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Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

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More life reflections from the bestselling author on themes of societal captivity and the catharsis of personal freedom.

In her third book, Doyle (Love Warrior, 2016, etc.) begins with a life-changing event. “Four years ago,” she writes, “married to the father of my three children, I fell in love with a woman.” That woman, Abby Wambach, would become her wife. Emblematically arranged into three sections—“Caged,” “Keys,” “Freedom”—the narrative offers, among other elements, vignettes about the soulful author’s girlhood, when she was bulimic and felt like a zoo animal, a “caged girl made for wide-open skies.” She followed the path that seemed right and appropriate based on her Catholic upbringing and adolescent conditioning. After a downward spiral into “drinking, drugging, and purging,” Doyle found sobriety and the authentic self she’d been suppressing. Still, there was trouble: Straining an already troubled marriage was her husband’s infidelity, which eventually led to life-altering choices and the discovery of a love she’d never experienced before. Throughout the book, Doyle remains open and candid, whether she’s admitting to rigging a high school homecoming court election or denouncing the doting perfectionism of “cream cheese parenting,” which is about “giving your children the best of everything.” The author’s fears and concerns are often mirrored by real-world issues: gender roles and bias, white privilege, racism, and religion-fueled homophobia and hypocrisy. Some stories merely skim the surface of larger issues, but Doyle revisits them in later sections and digs deeper, using friends and familial references to personify their impact on her life, both past and present. Shorter pieces, some only a page in length, manage to effectively translate an emotional gut punch, as when Doyle’s therapist called her blooming extramarital lesbian love a “dangerous distraction.” Ultimately, the narrative is an in-depth look at a courageous woman eager to share the wealth of her experiences by embracing vulnerability and reclaiming her inner strength and resiliency.

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Pub Date: March 10, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-9848-0125-8

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Dial Books

Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020

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An engrossing memoir as well as a lively treatise on what extraordinary grace under extraordinary pressure looks like.

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BECOMING

The former first lady opens up about her early life, her journey to the White House, and the eight history-making years that followed.

It’s not surprising that Obama grew up a rambunctious kid with a stubborn streak and an “I’ll show you” attitude. After all, it takes a special kind of moxie to survive being the first African-American FLOTUS—and not only survive, but thrive. For eight years, we witnessed the adversity the first family had to face, and now we get to read what it was really like growing up in a working-class family on Chicago’s South Side and ending up at the world’s most famous address. As the author amply shows, her can-do attitude was daunted at times by racism, leaving her wondering if she was good enough. Nevertheless, she persisted, graduating from Chicago’s first magnet high school, Princeton, and Harvard Law School, and pursuing careers in law and the nonprofit world. With her characteristic candor and dry wit, she recounts the story of her fateful meeting with her future husband. Once they were officially a couple, her feelings for him turned into a “toppling blast of lust, gratitude, fulfillment, wonder.” But for someone with a “natural resistance to chaos,” being the wife of an ambitious politician was no small feat, and becoming a mother along the way added another layer of complexity. Throw a presidential campaign into the mix, and even the most assured woman could begin to crack under the pressure. Later, adjusting to life in the White House was a formidable challenge for the self-described “control freak”—not to mention the difficulty of sparing their daughters the ugly side of politics and preserving their privacy as much as possible. Through it all, Obama remained determined to serve with grace and help others through initiatives like the White House garden and her campaign to fight childhood obesity. And even though she deems herself “not a political person,” she shares frank thoughts about the 2016 election.

An engrossing memoir as well as a lively treatise on what extraordinary grace under extraordinary pressure looks like.

Pub Date: Nov. 13, 2018

ISBN: 978-1-5247-6313-8

Page Count: 448

Publisher: Crown

Review Posted Online: Nov. 30, 2018

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