Fallin’s debut self-help book examines how humans move on after a significant loss.
The author introduces the topic of grief by describing the death of his daughter and the pain it caused him and his family. This introduction gives him a connection to readers also suffering through grief. However, the majority of the book is more professional than personal. Fallin writes about the inevitability of change and describes how hard times must be accepted even when they are most difficult. From there, he moves into a discussion about various causes of grief, focusing largely on the unexpected loss or death of a loved one. Most of what Fallin writes about addresses the specific experience of losing a child, but he does provide information about dealing with grief in general. He also addresses issues surrounding divorce, particularly after a child’s death, and deaths caused by violent crime or suicide. Overall, the book is applicable to a wide range of situations involving difficult transitions. Fallin points out how people tend to question their suffering throughout the mourning process, but he emphasizes the importance of focusing on the present instead of the past or future. However, aside from its beginning, the book can seem somewhat dry and academic at times. The author aims for trustworthiness by frequently citing his sources, but in exchange, his prose loses some of the personal touch established at the start, although some of the advice takes on a religious tone. However, the book is professional yet sympathetic throughout, preventing it from ever seeming unemotional.
An often engaging book that approaches grief with the mind rather than the heart.