A Frustrated Housewife Finds Herself. That's one of the chapter headings here. Want to know how she did it? She got a little help from Swell, read Jonathan Livingston Seagull, and realized her potential. Now she's a Toastmistress--and one of Swell's star pupils. Originator of a program called the Educating for Success Workshop (are we supposed to have heard of that?), Swell claims to be an authority on the subject of fitting square pegs into round holes, making successes out of failures. Start small, Swell advises. Tabulate your successes (example: when I was 10 I devised a marble game), and list what each did for you in terms of satisfaction (the marble game was resourceful and creative). If, for example, the word ""creative"" comes up a lot in your lifelong list, THAT'S where your success potential lies. List: My Most Successful Experience; My Least Successful Experience. My oh my.