You Can't Bully Me by Linda Landes

You Can't Bully Me

A Guide for Kids to Win Confidence and Lose a Bully
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Experienced elementary school teacher Landes suggests that changing a child’s reaction to bullying may help them turn lemons into lemonade.

In this sequential set of daily exercises for the bullied, the author reassures children that “there are no wrong answers” and “you have the brains, heart, courage and power to make your way; you just need to believe it and believe in yourself.” An introduction for parents, meanwhile, advises them on when to assist and when to step back and emphasizes respect for the “child’s point of view.” The bullied child is “in a fragile state,” Landes warns, and “more outings” or “a new hobby” may help avoid a potential pitfall: “Sitting around having a pity party is the cycle I want to break” she explains. Twelve chapters follow, including “What Do You Think Is Wrong About You?,” “What Do You Think Is Right About You?,” “What Can You Do To Honor Yourself?,” and a brief introduction to meditation. Through stories and occasional bromides (“Time heals all wounds, just give it some time”), Landes guides children with practical advice (such as the importance of personal hygiene), self-reflection (“Can you think of a time when you felt like you weren’t being yourself?”), and a little up-by-one’s-bootstraps tough love (“there’s somebody out there who is better at these things than you are”). The book’s sentiments aren’t earth-shattering, and with its emphasis on building confidence and resiliency, there may also be some discomfort: “People tell me I am special because…,” for example, may result in a disheartening blank from those in extreme situations. However, the underlying message (“You are important and you matter”) is consistent, upbeat, and child-centered.

A positively focused workbook that provides opportunities for bullied children to process the harassment they endure.

Pub Date: March 30th, 2015
ISBN: 978-1-5043-2623-0
Page count: 128pp
Publisher: BalboaPress
Program: Kirkus Indie
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