A positively focused workbook that provides opportunities for bullied children to process the harassment they endure.

You Can't Bully Me

A GUIDE FOR KIDS TO WIN CONFIDENCE AND LOSE A BULLY

Experienced elementary school teacher Landes suggests that changing a child’s reaction to bullying may help them turn lemons into lemonade.

In this sequential set of daily exercises for the bullied, the author reassures children that “there are no wrong answers” and “you have the brains, heart, courage and power to make your way; you just need to believe it and believe in yourself.” An introduction for parents, meanwhile, advises them on when to assist and when to step back and emphasizes respect for the “child’s point of view.” The bullied child is “in a fragile state,” Landes warns, and “more outings” or “a new hobby” may help avoid a potential pitfall: “Sitting around having a pity party is the cycle I want to break” she explains. Twelve chapters follow, including “What Do You Think Is Wrong About You?,” “What Do You Think Is Right About You?,” “What Can You Do To Honor Yourself?,” and a brief introduction to meditation. Through stories and occasional bromides (“Time heals all wounds, just give it some time”), Landes guides children with practical advice (such as the importance of personal hygiene), self-reflection (“Can you think of a time when you felt like you weren’t being yourself?”), and a little up-by-one’s-bootstraps tough love (“there’s somebody out there who is better at these things than you are”). The book’s sentiments aren’t earth-shattering, and with its emphasis on building confidence and resiliency, there may also be some discomfort: “People tell me I am special because…,” for example, may result in a disheartening blank from those in extreme situations. However, the underlying message (“You are important and you matter”) is consistent, upbeat, and child-centered.

A positively focused workbook that provides opportunities for bullied children to process the harassment they endure.

Pub Date: March 30, 2015

ISBN: 978-1-5043-2623-0

Page Count: 128

Publisher: BalboaPress

Review Posted Online: Aug. 11, 2015

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A refreshing celebrity memoir focused not strictly on the self but on a much larger horizon.

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WILL

One of Hollywood’s biggest stars delivers a memoir of success won through endless, relentless work and self-reckoning.

“My imagination is my gift, and when it merges with my work ethic, I can make money rain from the heavens.” So writes Smith, whose imagination is indeed a thing of wonder—a means of coping with fear, an abusive father with the heart of a drill instructor, and all manner of inner yearnings. The author’s imagination took him from a job bagging ice in Philadelphia to initial success as a partner in the Grammy-winning rap act DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. Smith was propelled into stardom thanks to the ministrations of Quincy Jones, who arranged an audition in the middle of his own birthday party, bellowing “No paralysis through analysis!” when Smith begged for time to prepare. The mantra—which Jones intoned 50-odd times during the two hours it took for the Hollywood suits to draw up a contract for the hit comedy series The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air—is telling, for hidden within this memoir lies a powerful self-help book. For Smith, all of life is a challenge in which one’s feelings are largely immaterial. “I watched my father’s negative emotions seize control of his ample intellect and cause him over and over again to destroy beautiful parts of our family,” he writes, good reason for him to sublimate negativity in the drive to get what he wanted—money, at first, and lots of it, which got him in trouble with the IRS in the early 1990s. Smith, having developed a self-image that cast him as a coward, opines that one’s best life is lived by facing up to the things that hold us back. “I’ve been making a conscious effort to attack all the things that I’m scared of,” he writes, adding, “And this is scary.” It’s a good lesson for any aspiring creative to ponder—though it helps to have Smith’s abundant talent, too.

A refreshing celebrity memoir focused not strictly on the self but on a much larger horizon.

Pub Date: Nov. 9, 2021

ISBN: 978-1-984877-92-5

Page Count: 432

Publisher: Penguin Press

Review Posted Online: Nov. 9, 2021

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 15, 2021

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A conversational, pleasurable look into McConaughey’s life and thought.

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GREENLIGHTS

All right, all right, all right: The affable, laconic actor delivers a combination of memoir and self-help book.

“This is an approach book,” writes McConaughey, adding that it contains “philosophies that can be objectively understood, and if you choose, subjectively adopted, by either changing your reality, or changing how you see it. This is a playbook, based on adventures in my life.” Some of those philosophies come in the form of apothegms: “When you can design your own weather, blow in the breeze”; “Simplify, focus, conserve to liberate.” Others come in the form of sometimes rambling stories that never take the shortest route from point A to point B, as when he recounts a dream-spurred, challenging visit to the Malian musician Ali Farka Touré, who offered a significant lesson in how disagreement can be expressed politely and without rancor. Fans of McConaughey will enjoy his memories—which line up squarely with other accounts in Melissa Maerz’s recent oral history, Alright, Alright, Alright—of his debut in Richard Linklater’s Dazed and Confused, to which he contributed not just that signature phrase, but also a kind of too-cool-for-school hipness that dissolves a bit upon realizing that he’s an older guy on the prowl for teenage girls. McConaughey’s prep to settle into the role of Wooderson involved inhabiting the mind of a dude who digs cars, rock ’n’ roll, and “chicks,” and he ran with it, reminding readers that the film originally had only three scripted scenes for his character. The lesson: “Do one thing well, then another. Once, then once more.” It’s clear that the author is a thoughtful man, even an intellectual of sorts, though without the earnestness of Ethan Hawke or James Franco. Though some of the sentiments are greeting card–ish, this book is entertaining and full of good lessons.

A conversational, pleasurable look into McConaughey’s life and thought.

Pub Date: Oct. 20, 2020

ISBN: 978-0-593-13913-4

Page Count: 304

Publisher: Crown

Review Posted Online: Oct. 27, 2020

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 1, 2020

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