An inspirational story of a women’s painful pursuit to escape the guilt that imprisoned her.
In Quimby’s semi-fictionalized account, one woman shares the shame and struggle of abuse and the spiritual journey she undertook to move past it.
This chronicle is based on the author’s own experiences, and offers readers a glimpse at what victims of domestic violence experience. Elizabeth Baldwin grew up on a rural farm and was raised in a strict Catholic church; her family and religion largely shaped her adult life. Her father constantly belittled her mother, who hardly ever spoke, and had an affair with his wife’s live-in half-sister. Elizabeth felt the weight of shame early as a result of her Catholic upbringing. As she grew into adulthood, she fell into a series of abusive relationships during which her four children were also mistreated. The book gives readers a glimpse inside the thoughts and lives of women in destructive relationships and why they remain trapped in them. In Elizabeth’s case, she felt unworthy of true love, particularly after having a child out of wedlock and committing adultery (which was, in fact, more akin to rape). It wasn’t until she realized the love and mercy of God that she found freedom. Readers see Elizabeth’s difficult journey to escape a violent life. Because the characters are drawn from the author’s life, they are well-developed and reflect true tendencies, reactions and emotions. That the book presents a semi-autobiographical unmitigated look at abusive fathers and husbands makes the violence all the more horrifying. Many pity these women and wonder why they don’t leave their husbands, but the novel illustrates a common reason: a lack of self-worth. Ill-treatment was hard to overcome, says Elizabeth, and even more difficult to share with others. Yet, in finding the courage to leave her husband and tell her story, Elizabeth discovers life is more than the shame she was trapped in for most of her life.
An inspirational story of a women’s painful pursuit to escape the guilt that imprisoned her.Pub Date: Nov. 29, 2011
ISBN: 978-1468501193
Page Count: 236
Publisher: AuthorHouse
Review Posted Online: May 25, 2012
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
The heartbreaking story of an emotionally battered child delivered with captivating candor and grace.
The former iCarly star reflects on her difficult childhood.
In her debut memoir, titled after her 2020 one-woman show, singer and actor McCurdy (b. 1992) reveals the raw details of what she describes as years of emotional abuse at the hands of her demanding, emotionally unstable stage mom, Debra. Born in Los Angeles, the author, along with three older brothers, grew up in a home controlled by her mother. When McCurdy was 3, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Though she initially survived, the disease’s recurrence would ultimately take her life when the author was 21. McCurdy candidly reconstructs those in-between years, showing how “my mom emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me in ways that will forever impact me.” Insistent on molding her only daughter into “Mommy’s little actress,” Debra shuffled her to auditions beginning at age 6. As she matured and starting booking acting gigs, McCurdy remained “desperate to impress Mom,” while Debra became increasingly obsessive about her daughter’s physical appearance. She tinted her daughter’s eyelashes, whitened her teeth, enforced a tightly monitored regimen of “calorie restriction,” and performed regular genital exams on her as a teenager. Eventually, the author grew understandably resentful and tried to distance herself from her mother. As a young celebrity, however, McCurdy became vulnerable to eating disorders, alcohol addiction, self-loathing, and unstable relationships. Throughout the book, she honestly portrays Debra’s cruel perfectionist personality and abusive behavior patterns, showing a woman who could get enraged by everything from crooked eyeliner to spilled milk. At the same time, McCurdy exhibits compassion for her deeply flawed mother. Late in the book, she shares a crushing secret her father revealed to her as an adult. While McCurdy didn’t emerge from her childhood unscathed, she’s managed to spin her harrowing experience into a sold-out stage act and achieve a form of catharsis that puts her mind, body, and acting career at peace.
The heartbreaking story of an emotionally battered child delivered with captivating candor and grace.Pub Date: Aug. 9, 2022
ISBN: 978-1-982185-82-4
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Review Posted Online: May 30, 2022
Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 1, 2022
SEEN & HEARD
SEEN & HEARD
SEEN & HEARD
A marvelously tender memoir on suicide and loss.
An essayist and novelist turns her attention to the heartache of a friend’s suicide.
Crosley’s memoir is not only a joy to read, but also a respectful and philosophical work about a colleague’s recent suicide. “All burglaries are alike, but every burglary is uninsured in its own way,” she begins, in reference to the thief who stole the jewelry from her New York apartment in 2019. Among the stolen items was her grandmother’s “green dome cocktail ring with tiers of tourmaline (think kryptonite, think dish soap).” She wrote those words two months after the burglary and “one month since the violent death of my dearest friend.” That friend was Russell Perreault, referred to only by his first name, her boss when she was a publicist at Vintage Books. Russell, who loved “cheap trinkets” from flea markets, had “the timeless charm of a movie star, the competitive edge of a Spartan,” and—one of many marvelous details—a “thatch of salt-and-pepper hair, seemingly scalped from the roof of an English country house.” Over the years, the two became more than boss and subordinate, teasing one another at work, sharing dinners, enjoying “idyllic scenes” at his Connecticut country home, “a modest farmhouse with peeling paint and fragile plumbing…the house that Windex forgot.” It was in the barn at that house that Russell took his own life. Despite the obvious difference in the severity of robbery and suicide, Crosley fashions a sharp narrative that finds commonality in the dislocation brought on by these events. The book is no hagiography—she notes harassment complaints against Russell for thoughtlessly tossed-off comments, plus critiques of the “deeply antiquated and often backward” publishing industry—but the result is a warm remembrance sure to resonate with anyone who has experienced loss.
A marvelously tender memoir on suicide and loss.Pub Date: Feb. 27, 2024
ISBN: 9780374609849
Page Count: 208
Publisher: MCD/Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Review Posted Online: Sept. 19, 2023
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Nov. 1, 2023
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