It's meant to be a distillation of the advice that marriage counselors dole out, universalized so that ""Everycouple"" can solve marital problems by the book. But reading this, with its meticulously rendered transcripts of petty marital squabbles, one is tempted to forget the concept of no-fault marriage--blame is not to be meted out, problems are to be solved--and head for a good divorce lawyer. Remember that some expectations are not ""legitimate"" say the authors by way of advice. They may only be hopes and wishes in disguise. Be as versatile and flexible as possible in negotiating compromise, they say. Avoid getting locked into a struggle for power. Marriage is not a bed of roses. One swallow does not a summer make. The early bird catches the worm. An apple a day. . . .