WHEN LOVERS ARE FRIENDS by Merle Shain

WHEN LOVERS ARE FRIENDS

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KIRKUS REVIEW

On the same circuit as Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others (1973), another accessible one-hour tour of emotional issues of the day: intimacy and independence. Merle Shain, a Toronto writer, lightly pronounces on modern syndromes (""We are the 'Is this all there is?' generation"") and offers her own gently buffed insights. ""People who are always trying to make the perfect choice, rejecting what they have for what they hope to find, bet the present on the future and end up missing both."" . . . ""Getting control over others has a lot to do with making them feel weak."" . . . ""As long as we let others tell us if we rate, not one of us is safe."" . . . ""Giving is only giving if the other person goes away enriched."" Mixing legends, quotations, and anecdotal examples of flawed relationships and genuine friendships, she avoids both saccharine and what-the-hell reconciliations. Middle-brow meditations, less moist and preachy than most, and sincere enough to satisfy more than the Wyse-d up audience.

Pub Date: Sept. 11th, 1978
Publisher: Lippincott