A useful resource for people exploring their own gender identities, as well as for their families and friends.

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MEMOIRS OF GENDER AND IDENTITY

Advocates Rajunov and Duane gather 30 short first-person essays about the experience of “discovering, defining, contracting, creating, and experiencing gender in a unique way.”

The editors cover a lot of ground in this collection. Abigail describes parenting her agender child, and Jules De La Cruz, whose wife was pregnant at the time De La Cruz wrote the essay, considers how “mother” and “father” are inadequate terms for nonbinary parents. In discussing her journey, CK Combs examines the process of “building an authentic understanding of misogyny and feminism, and the ability to step into male privilege with that knowledge.” Sand C. Chang offers one of the more creatively structured essays, first offering a sort of micro-essay on the various meanings of the word “token” and then taking up the form of a daily calendar entry to capture “A Day in the Life of a Nonbinary Gender Therapist.” Threading throughout the book is the theme of questioning, exploration, journey, and process: As Combs suggests, the “What are you?” question may be best answered in the present, and answering may never be a completed task. Many essays touch on the power of clothing to concoct and disrupt gender identity; on experiences, positive and negative, of working with therapists; and on the exhaustion of “passing” and “gender fatigue.” Religion also features: Jaye Ware describes being rejected by—and rejecting—church. Avery Erickson reports from a Buddhist retreat. Looking around the communal male bathroom, Erickson felt “a sense of otherness” bubbling up, but it was apt that this feeling should emerge at a retreat because “I came to this retreat…to see what is true” and “to be aware of this life and be with this moment, just as they are.” Erickson shows that the Zen idea of “ ‘simultaneous inclusion’ of the relative and the absolute” may be a good metaphor—or even grammar—for gender identity.

A useful resource for people exploring their own gender identities, as well as for their families and friends.

Pub Date: April 9, 2019

ISBN: 978-0-231-18533-2

Page Count: 304

Publisher: Columbia Univ.

Review Posted Online: March 15, 2019

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Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

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More life reflections from the bestselling author on themes of societal captivity and the catharsis of personal freedom.

In her third book, Doyle (Love Warrior, 2016, etc.) begins with a life-changing event. “Four years ago,” she writes, “married to the father of my three children, I fell in love with a woman.” That woman, Abby Wambach, would become her wife. Emblematically arranged into three sections—“Caged,” “Keys,” “Freedom”—the narrative offers, among other elements, vignettes about the soulful author’s girlhood, when she was bulimic and felt like a zoo animal, a “caged girl made for wide-open skies.” She followed the path that seemed right and appropriate based on her Catholic upbringing and adolescent conditioning. After a downward spiral into “drinking, drugging, and purging,” Doyle found sobriety and the authentic self she’d been suppressing. Still, there was trouble: Straining an already troubled marriage was her husband’s infidelity, which eventually led to life-altering choices and the discovery of a love she’d never experienced before. Throughout the book, Doyle remains open and candid, whether she’s admitting to rigging a high school homecoming court election or denouncing the doting perfectionism of “cream cheese parenting,” which is about “giving your children the best of everything.” The author’s fears and concerns are often mirrored by real-world issues: gender roles and bias, white privilege, racism, and religion-fueled homophobia and hypocrisy. Some stories merely skim the surface of larger issues, but Doyle revisits them in later sections and digs deeper, using friends and familial references to personify their impact on her life, both past and present. Shorter pieces, some only a page in length, manage to effectively translate an emotional gut punch, as when Doyle’s therapist called her blooming extramarital lesbian love a “dangerous distraction.” Ultimately, the narrative is an in-depth look at a courageous woman eager to share the wealth of her experiences by embracing vulnerability and reclaiming her inner strength and resiliency.

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Pub Date: March 10, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-9848-0125-8

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Dial Books

Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020

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BECOMING

The former first lady opens up about her early life, her journey to the White House, and the eight history-making years that followed.

It’s not surprising that Obama grew up a rambunctious kid with a stubborn streak and an “I’ll show you” attitude. After all, it takes a special kind of moxie to survive being the first African-American FLOTUS—and not only survive, but thrive. For eight years, we witnessed the adversity the first family had to face, and now we get to read what it was really like growing up in a working-class family on Chicago’s South Side and ending up at the world’s most famous address. As the author amply shows, her can-do attitude was daunted at times by racism, leaving her wondering if she was good enough. Nevertheless, she persisted, graduating from Chicago’s first magnet high school, Princeton, and Harvard Law School, and pursuing careers in law and the nonprofit world. With her characteristic candor and dry wit, she recounts the story of her fateful meeting with her future husband. Once they were officially a couple, her feelings for him turned into a “toppling blast of lust, gratitude, fulfillment, wonder.” But for someone with a “natural resistance to chaos,” being the wife of an ambitious politician was no small feat, and becoming a mother along the way added another layer of complexity. Throw a presidential campaign into the mix, and even the most assured woman could begin to crack under the pressure. Later, adjusting to life in the White House was a formidable challenge for the self-described “control freak”—not to mention the difficulty of sparing their daughters the ugly side of politics and preserving their privacy as much as possible. Through it all, Obama remained determined to serve with grace and help others through initiatives like the White House garden and her campaign to fight childhood obesity. And even though she deems herself “not a political person,” she shares frank thoughts about the 2016 election.

An engrossing memoir as well as a lively treatise on what extraordinary grace under extraordinary pressure looks like.

Pub Date: Nov. 13, 2018

ISBN: 978-1-5247-6313-8

Page Count: 448

Publisher: Crown

Review Posted Online: Nov. 30, 2018

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