Heaven will answer the unwillingly single woman’s prayer, according to this reassuring, no-nonsense self-help book.
Rainford-Bourne (The Maternal Glow, 2009), an OB-GYN and a relationship columnist for the South Florida Times, promises readers that God has a plan for their marital bliss if they approach the matter with a modicum of common sense, self-awareness, and a willingness to be open to what comes along. She advises women to make a list of traits that they want in a husband and decide which points are ironclad and which they can compromise on; to get out there and meet men at parties, church, jazz clubs, on the Internet, and on blind dates; to let friendship grow before love blossoms; and not to dismiss a possibility if he doesn’t immediately click. She offers guidelines on how to spot good husband material, with tips on how to distinguish “dogs” and smooth-talking operators from promising prospects who just need to mature. She also emphasizes that it’s important for a woman to find someone with whom she gets along well and who lets her be herself. Although the author is warmly enthusiastic about marriage, she eschews gauzy romance; instead, she warns readers to “take your heart out of it and use your head” when mulling a marriage proposal, to avoid imagining that they can change a man, and to reconcile themselves to a husband’s inevitable faults because they will “multiply ten times over” as time passes. Rainford-Bourne delivers her advice in well-written, engaging sermonettes interspersed with vignettes that she’s gathered from women who tell of blissful wedlock as well as harrowing divorces. She also draws from her own experience of searching intently for a husband as her mid-30s loomed, finally landing one with whom she started a happy family. Her thinking is infused with Christian themes—one section, for example, discusses the advantages and challenges of remaining a virgin until marriage—but she wears these principles lightly and treats the imperfections of relationships sympathetically. Readers will find a wealth of practical wisdom here as well as an energizing pep talk.
A useful, sometimes-inspiring guide to finding Mr. Right.