HOW TO LOVE A DIFFICULT MAN by Nancy Good

HOW TO LOVE A DIFFICULT MAN

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KIRKUS REVIEW

Although it follows the format of other self-help/pop-psychology books, this one is better than most. The author has not burdened herself with weird theory and/or complex with a cute name, so she is able to give realistic-sounding examples and advice. Good has a good topic--almost every women who's in love believes that the object of her affections is a ""difficult"" man. Presumably drawing upon her experience as a psychotherapist in New York City, the author uses many parables to illustrate her points: Paulette, 34, and Casey, 36; Betty and Martin's marriage; Jean, who has trouble with both her boyfriend and her boss; etc. The first point--and premise for the book--is "". . .if you feel deprived in your relationship because your man is difficult, chances are the situation will not improve unless you take the first steps. . ."" She also maintains that men and women are reared to learn different responses to similar situations, and that a successful romantic relationship is only possible if both partners commit to monogamy. Most of her advice has a practical bias, such as: reassuring the man, admitting to jealousy as a natural emotion, and avoiding touchy topics. Jargon is minimal. An entire book of coping strategies for women with difficult mates may sound like ""blaming the victim,"" but it's this down-to-earth attitude that makes Good's book better.

Pub Date: March 23rd, 1987
ISBN: 0595159303
Publisher: St. Martin's