A licensed marriage and family therapist offers his advice on improving intimate relationships.
In his debut book, Rosenthal draws on his experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist and a relationship-advice columnist for the Denver Post. As a nationally recognized expert on intimacy, he provides valuable insights about finding harmony, contentment and passion. He addresses dozens of topics, including how to romance a woman, handle criticism and discover one’s own hidden issues. Other subjects include how to let down one’s guard, communicate when one is angry or hurt, and keep things together during a crisis. He also looks at how to add spark to one’s sex life, even addressing the fine art of erotic talk. Each chapter ends with quotations and quips about relationships, adding sage advice and a lighthearted feel. The author’s selection of quotes reveals the wisdom he’s accumulated over 25 years, such as this example, credited to the late Canadian novelist Robertson Davies: “As a general thing, people marry most happily with their own kind. The trouble lies in the fact that people usually marry at an age when they do not really know what their own kind is.” Rosenthal also quotes from comedian Bob Hope (“People who throw kisses are hopelessly lazy”), helpfully reminding couples that they should also keep their senses of humor. There are quizzes to help readers determine whether they are empathetic, good listeners, walled-off, controlling or possibly sabotaging their relationships. There’s also a concluding “Notes” section, with citations of other publications, indexed by chapter and topic. Overall, the guide is informative and entertaining, and the writing, devoid of jargon. Unlike other books in this genre, there’s no attempt here to fit men and women into predetermined categories––just down-to-earth advice. Like a sort of car manual for couples, this is a useful book to consult before (or after) the “check engine” light flickers on a relationship’s dashboard.
A wise, witty and helpful guide for couples wishing to improve and enliven their romantic connections.