I'm o.k., you're o.k. Again. If it works so well, how come they need to keep writing the same book over and over? ""Often people who are taught they are Not OK are invited to believe they have a conditional lease on life. They are told they can feel OK, at least temporarily, if they meet very strict conditions. They can feel OK as long as they meet unreasonable demands. The OK If conditions are impossible to fulfill on a continuing basis and violate. . . .