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The same old self-improvement hype garbed in the tenets of judo--the ""gentle way"" of knocking the hell out of your opponent. A great deal rests on such intangibles as controlling your ""emotional mind"" with your ""analytical mind"" (when someone screams emotionally at you, you are to Pause, Relax, Program a nondefensive response, and Reward yourself mentally for your restraint--or PRPR to insiders). You are also supposed to acquire an aura of invulnerability; assert yourself--gently, of course--by means of what other writers label I-messages (""I get upset when you criticize my appearance in front of others""); and practice such ""throws"" as defusion and conversion: i.e., moving in the direction of the opponent's own force to topple him. The term ""opponent,"" it should be noted, may be a bit misleading here: the program doesn't advocate building up oneself at the expense of others; the word is a carryover, rather, from the formal language of physical judo, where, according to sales-trainer Lager and psychologist Kraft, no one ever really gets hurt and everybody has a great deal of respect for everyone else. This might have an edge over the hundreds of similar pep talks for the reader who relates well to judo terms; but the average person will Find it just one more gimmicky route to self-perfection.

Pub Date: Sept. 1st, 1981
Publisher: Crown