Hodson is a British journalist and counselor who dispenses advice through radio broadcasts and a newspaper column. His latest piece of advice is for men to wake up and smell the coffee, emotionally speaking. Not only is it old-fashioned for men to cling to traditional ideas of males as the sole providers in a family and women as the sole nurturers, it is hazardous to their financial and mental health. Women are divorcing men in increasing numbers (in Britain), he notes. And, since women live longer than men and have fewer heart attacks and uclers, perhaps men should become a bit more sensitive, if only for their own good. Hodson's arguments are ones that have been heard here for several years: part of the problem is that we teach little boys it's ""not manly"" to cry; absent or emotionally distant fathers breed distant sons who grow up and, in turn, become distant fathers: men see ""success"" in terms of acquisitions and conquests, not in terms of inner peace and contentment with the often frustrating work of familial relationships. Hodson may add nothing to what's already been said, but some will find his book worth noting simply because a man is calling for a more delicate balance in the war between the sexes--Alan Alda and Phil Donahue notwithstanding.