DAYS LIKE THIS by Phyllis Gillis


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How to prepare for divorce, especially if you're a woman, is the practical side of this book. However, this is also a blow-by-blow account of the emotional, social and psychic side-effects of the process, as well as a primer on how to fight for your rights in a sane, effective manner. The financial pitfalls of divorce are potentially disastrous for today's woman under the no-fault laws. Gillis' experience should alert some middle- and upper-middle-class wives to the perils of unpreparedness. The husband as depicted here is pure plastic opportunism, the wife all emotion and sensitivity, though a bit disorganized. He springs divorce on her as a fait accompli--no discussion, no argument, no reconciliation and no marriage counseling, please. When she discovers he has been planning the business details of their disengagement for a year, it is devastating. The fact that he runs off with a friend--the next-door neighbor--only adds to the misery of it all. This is a two-job, yuppie-ish, suburban, one perfect child, upwardly mobile family scenario featuring a $100,000+ income. The pain of divorce is somewhat alleviated when you can afford $90-per-hour lawyers who will devote a great deal of time to your case, a fee most American families could scarcely manage. The comforts of suburbia are not without their risks and traumas. This journey to a new life is meaningful on a human level. The Solomon-like division of old dishes, furniture and a child is heart-rending when it isn't merely ludicrous. There are sensible precautions here for every woman, and the author strives to be reasonably fair about her messed-up marriage. Despite something precious and self-conscious about her life-style, there are probably many who will be able to identify' with her tribulations and benefit from them.

Pub Date: July 7th, 1986
Publisher: McGraw-Hill