LIFE AFTER 'I DO!': by Rachel Egan


Awakening from My Dreams, Learning to Love the Reality of Marriage and Family
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Sisterly advice on marriage, children and household management.

Egan, a life coach, will never forget the sage wisdom her father imparted as she rode to the church on her wedding day–there would be good years and bad years in her marriage. The enormity of the suggestion (entire years of her life could be difficult?!) gave Egan pause; she needed several turns around the block to digest the information. Regardless, Egan went through with the wedding, and after 20 years–some bad but mostly good–of marriage, including a four-year span that included the birth of her four children, the author shares what she learned along the way. Part anecdote, part personal experience, sprinkled with quotes from well-known thinkers and a few expert opinions, Egan’s soothing advice is like that from an experienced older sister. The author readily admits the only thing that qualifies her to write this book is an excess amount of common sense, but her down-to-earth approach is certain to strike a chord with readers. She urges parents to take it easy on themselves, suggesting that sometimes “good enough” proves better for the family than perfection. By running her family like a business, complete with “staff meetings,” and employing a system of mini-maids, Egan harnessed the chaos of her children’s toddler years and developed a well-run household. The author’s prosaic look at marriage, motherhood and family life runs counter to the lengths today’s parents will go to churn out perfect children–and therein lies the true value of this book. Reminiscent of Vicki Iovine’s Girlfriend Guides, Egan’s book is a more middle-class, intellectual take on the theme, devoid of the former’s Hollywood component. She even divides the book into chapters short enough for the most harried of parents to digest during feedings or other rare quiet moments.

Solid suggestions for dealing with what comes after the wedding.

Pub Date: March 4th, 2004
ISBN: 978-1413-444766
Program: Kirkus Indie
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