OF PEBBLES & GRENADES: 3 Keys to Self-Mastery

Debut author Corrales uses a metaphor of pebbles and grenades to jump start a path to self-discovery.
Providing three keys to self-mastery, life and leadership coach Corrales fills a niche in the leadership studies genre by giving readers the blueprints for becoming secret agents of love and transformation, or SALT. The author sums up her approach this way: “There are three major altitudes from which to live life: (1) Emotional, (2) Rational, and (3) Intergral. Another way to say it is that we can live from the altitude of Power, the altitude of Principle, and the altitude of Purpose.” Acronyms used throughout are memorable and promote easy comprehension of major concepts. Common-sense concepts for growth include: taking responsibility for one’s actions, controlling rather than being controlled by emotions, noting others’ feelings and perspectives, and most importantly, not viewing the world from an attitude of victimhood. Each chapter offers an explanation of concepts and personal exercises intended for readers to complete and analyze such as finding dysfunctional patterns in relationships and working to change them. Conceptually different from other self-discovery books, the questions being addressed here are: “What’s the maturity level of the leader?” and “How can the leader lead most effectively while encouraging the self-discovery and transformation from those being led?” The text is often unnecessarily repetitive in detailing centralized themes and ideas, and the busy formatting tends to distract from rather than enhance the material. Later chapters detail six habits used by leaders operating within the perfected skill set of the third altitude—the optimal leadership realm. In-depth and instructive practice activities guide readers through the concepts of acting with purpose, dealing with behaviors and habits of individuals not operating at the same levels, and working through attitudes of negativity and ambivalence. The guide ends with a bit of self-promotion for future volumes, which may leave readers wondering if fulfillment is just pages away.
An easy to access, step-by-step approach to self-mastery.

Pub Date: Aug. 29, 2011

ISBN: 978-1463448202

Page Count: 240

Publisher: AuthorHouse

Review Posted Online: July 21, 2014

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Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

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More life reflections from the bestselling author on themes of societal captivity and the catharsis of personal freedom.

In her third book, Doyle (Love Warrior, 2016, etc.) begins with a life-changing event. “Four years ago,” she writes, “married to the father of my three children, I fell in love with a woman.” That woman, Abby Wambach, would become her wife. Emblematically arranged into three sections—“Caged,” “Keys,” “Freedom”—the narrative offers, among other elements, vignettes about the soulful author’s girlhood, when she was bulimic and felt like a zoo animal, a “caged girl made for wide-open skies.” She followed the path that seemed right and appropriate based on her Catholic upbringing and adolescent conditioning. After a downward spiral into “drinking, drugging, and purging,” Doyle found sobriety and the authentic self she’d been suppressing. Still, there was trouble: Straining an already troubled marriage was her husband’s infidelity, which eventually led to life-altering choices and the discovery of a love she’d never experienced before. Throughout the book, Doyle remains open and candid, whether she’s admitting to rigging a high school homecoming court election or denouncing the doting perfectionism of “cream cheese parenting,” which is about “giving your children the best of everything.” The author’s fears and concerns are often mirrored by real-world issues: gender roles and bias, white privilege, racism, and religion-fueled homophobia and hypocrisy. Some stories merely skim the surface of larger issues, but Doyle revisits them in later sections and digs deeper, using friends and familial references to personify their impact on her life, both past and present. Shorter pieces, some only a page in length, manage to effectively translate an emotional gut punch, as when Doyle’s therapist called her blooming extramarital lesbian love a “dangerous distraction.” Ultimately, the narrative is an in-depth look at a courageous woman eager to share the wealth of her experiences by embracing vulnerability and reclaiming her inner strength and resiliency.

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Pub Date: March 10, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-9848-0125-8

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Dial Books

Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020

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Clever and accessibly conversational, Manson reminds us to chill out, not sweat the small stuff, and keep hope for a better...

EVERYTHING IS F*CKED

A BOOK ABOUT HOPE

The popular blogger and author delivers an entertaining and thought-provoking third book about the importance of being hopeful in terrible times.

“We are a culture and a people in need of hope,” writes Manson (The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, 2016, etc.). With an appealing combination of gritty humor and straightforward prose, the author floats the idea of drawing strength and hope from a myriad of sources in order to tolerate the “incomprehensibility of your existence.” He broadens and illuminates his concepts through a series of hypothetical scenarios based in contemporary reality. At the dark heart of Manson’s guide is the “Uncomfortable Truth,” which reiterates our cosmic insignificance and the inevitability of death, whether we blindly ignore or blissfully embrace it. The author establishes this harsh sentiment early on, creating a firm foundation for examining the current crisis of hope, how we got here, and what it means on a larger scale. Manson’s referential text probes the heroism of Auschwitz infiltrator Witold Pilecki and the work of Isaac Newton, Nietzsche, Einstein, and Immanuel Kant, as the author explores the mechanics of how hope is created and maintained through self-control and community. Though Manson takes many serpentine intellectual detours, his dark-humored wit and blunt prose are both informative and engaging. He is at his most convincing in his discussions about the fallibility of religious beliefs, the modern world’s numerous shortcomings, deliberations over the “Feeling Brain” versus the “Thinking Brain,” and the importance of striking a happy medium between overindulging in and repressing emotions. Although we live in a “couch-potato-pundit era of tweetstorms and outrage porn,” writes Manson, hope springs eternal through the magic salves of self-awareness, rational thinking, and even pain, which is “at the heart of all emotion.”

Clever and accessibly conversational, Manson reminds us to chill out, not sweat the small stuff, and keep hope for a better world alive.

Pub Date: May 14, 2019

ISBN: 978-0-06-288843-3

Page Count: 288

Publisher: Harper/HarperCollins

Review Posted Online: April 1, 2019

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