This memoir details a gay man’s journey to live an authentic life.
In his memoir, Luciano looks back at his childhood, adolescence and his early attractions to men. Culture, the time period and an ill-fated romance led Luciano to meet and marry a woman, with whom he later fosters two children. Though he loves his children and is happy with his life, hiding his true self slowly becomes more and more difficult for Luciano, and he’s eventually forced to admit and deal with his homosexuality. He writes movingly about how such a small thing can have such far-reaching ramifications: “They were just three little words. I am gay—just six letters. Was it even possible to form a sentence of so few letters, yet one that carried with it so much weight?” After coming out, Luciano faces the dissolution of his family and the effect the divorce has on his children; he relearns how to live on his own and, eventually, tests the waters of gay dating. Luciano’s prose is straightforward and a little clumsy, though he strives to inject it with good-natured humor, aided by the liberal use of quotes from popular songs he loves. Emphasis on his argument that he was born gay and didn’t choose his sexual preference may be off-putting to more conservative readers, though it adds to the book’s emotional weight, which centers on the pain Luciano causes his family and himself. With numerous small moments of connection and feeling, the memoir adeptly portrays an experience many readers may not be familiar with while also providing support for people who may be struggling under similar circumstances.
An emotional, thoughtful and rarely told story.